Rodney Ohebsion

Rodney Ohebsion's Collection of Quotes and Proverbs

Comedy Quotes

African Proverbs

A man who pays respect to the great paves his own way for greatness.

African Proverbs

American Proverbs

The road to the head lies through the heart. [In order to influence someone's mind, you should start by appealing to his emotional nature, desires, etc.]

Success has many fathers, but failure is an orphan. [When something succeeds, many people take credit for it; but when something fails, they do the opposite.]

We may give advice, but we cannot give conduct. [It's easy to give someone advice; it's seldom as easy to change what he does.]

A smile is worth a thousand words.

There are two sides to every story—and then there’s the truth. [Even after hearing both sides of a story, you still won't have the complete, reliable truth.]

American Proverbs

Jalon Anderson Quotes

A good lie contains 80% of the truth.

The world is a very complicated place with many layers to it. It is naive to dismiss something offhand that you really know nothing about, and you have never thought about until I posted about it a few days ago.

Jalon Anderson Quotes

Sherwood Anderson Quotes

General Grant had a simple, childlike [recipe] for meeting life ... “I am terribly afraid, but the other fellow is afraid, too.”

Antisthenes Quotes

(c444 BC-c365 BC) philosopher

The most useful piece of learning for the uses of life is to unlearn what is untrue. [We often see learning as a process of adding ideas and beliefs--but in some ways, it can be more important to get rid of them.]

Armenian Proverbs

When someone’s wealth improves, his home’s columns suddenly appear crooked. [When people start making more money, they immediatley see an increased need to spend money.]

Armenian Proverbs

Sharon Atkins Quotes

receptionist at a large business establishment in the Midwest. In the early 1970s (when she was interviewed), she was 24, and her husband was a student

I was out of college, an English Lit. major. I looked around for copywriting jobs. The people they wanted had majored in journalism. Okay, the first myth that blew up in my face was that a college education will get you a job.

I changed my opinion of receptionist because now I am one. It wasn't the dumb broad at the front desk who took phone messages. She had to be something else because I thought I was something else.

I was fine until there was a press party. We were having a fairly intelligent conversation. Then they asked me what I did. When I told them, they turned around and went to find other people with nametags. I wasn't worth bothering with. I wasn't being rejected because of what I had said or the way I talked, but simply because of my function. After that, I tried to make up other names for what I did-communications control, servomechanism. (Laughs.)

... You can't pay someone who does what I do very much. It isn't economically feasible. (Laughs.) You are there to filter people and to filter telephone calls. You're there to just handle the equipment. You're treated like a piece of equipment, like the telephone.

You come in at nine, open the door, you look at the piece of machinery, you plug in the headpiece. That's how my day begins. You tremble when you hear the first ring. After that, it's sort of downhill-unless there's someone who is either kind or nasty. The rest the people are just non, they don't exist. They're just voices. You answer calls, you connect them to others, that's it.

I don't have much contact with people. You can't see them. You don't know if they are laughing, if they're being satirical, or being kind. So your conversation come very abrupt. I noticed that in talking to people. My conversations would be very short and clipped, in short sentences, the way talk to people all day on the telephone.

I never answer the phone at home. It carries over. The way I talk to people on the phone has changed. Even when my mother calls, I don't talk to her for very long. I want to see people when I talk to them. But now, when I see them, I talk to them like I was talking on the telephone. It isn't a conscious process. I don't know what's happened. When I'm talking to someone at work. The telephone rings and the conversation is interrupted. So I never bother finishing sentences or finishing thoughts. I always have this feeling of interruption.

You can think about this thing and all of a sudden the phone rings and you've got to jump right back. There isn't a ten-minute break in the whole day that is quiet. ... So you do quickie things, like read a chapter in a short story. It has to be short-term stuff. ...

You try to fill up your time thinking about other things: what you are going to do on the weekend or about your family. You have to use your imagination. If you don't have a good one or you bore easily, you're in trouble. Just to fill in time, I write real bad poetry or letters to myself and to other people and never mail them. The letters are fantasies, sort of rambling, how I feel, how I depressed I am.

I do some drawings-Mandarin, sort of. Peaceful colors of red and blue. Very ordered life. I'd like to think of rainbows and mountains. I never draw humans. Things of nature, never people. I always dream I'm alone and things are quiet. I call it the land of no-phone, where there isn't any machines telling me where I have to be every minute.

... Your job doesn't mean anything. Because you're just a little machine. A monkey could do what I do. It's really unfair to ask someone to do that.

...You have to lie for other people. That's another thing: having to make up stories for them if they don't want to talk to someone on the telephone. At first, I'd feel embarrassed and I'd feel they knew I was lying. There was a sense of emptiness. There'd be a silence, and I'd feel guilty. At first I'd try to think of a euphemism for "He's not here." It really bothered me. Then I got tired of doing it, so I'd just say, "He's not here." You're not looking at the person; you're talking to him over an instrument. (Laughs.) So after a while it doesn't really matter. The first time it was live. The person was there. I'm sure I blushed. He probably knew I was lying. And I think he understood I was just the instrument, not the source.

Until recently, I'd cry in the morning. I didn't want to get up. I'd dread Fridays because Monday was always looming over me. Another five days ahead of me. There never seemed to be any end to it. Why am I doing this? Yet I dread looking for other jobs. I don't like filling out forms and taking typing tests. I remember on applications, I'd put down, "I'd like to deal with the public." (Laughs.) Well, I don't want to deal with the public anymore.

I take the bus to work. That was my big decision. I had to go to work and do what everyone else told me to do, but I could decide whether to take the bus or the el. To me, that was the big choice. Those are the only kinds of decisions you make and they become very important to you.

Very few people talk on the bus going home. Sort of sit there and look dejected. Stare out the window, pull out their newspaper, or push other people. You feel tense, until the bus empties out or you get home. Because things happen to you all day long, things that you can't get rid of. So they build up and everyone is feeding them to each other on the bus. There didn't seem to be any kind of relief about going home. It was: Boy! Did I have a lot of garbage to put with!

One minute to five o'clock is a moment of triumph. You physically turn off the machine that has dictated to you all day long. You put it in a drawer and that's it. You're your own man for a few hours. Then it calls to you every morning and you have to come back to it.

I don't know what I'd like to do. That's what hurts the most. That's why I can't quit the job. I really don't know what talents I may have. And I don't know where to go to find out. I've been fostered for so long by school and didn't have time to think about it.

My father's in watch repair. That's always interested me, working with my hands, and independent. I don't think I'd mind going back and learning something, taking a piece of furniture and refinishing it. The type of job people aren't telling you what to do every minute of the day.

St. Augustine Quotes

(354-430) philosopher and Christian bishop

To many, total abstinence is easier than perfect moderation. [Sometimes it's easier to avoid something completely than to do it in moderation. An alcoholic is more likley to stop drinking than he is to have just one drink a day.]

Avasyaka Niryukti Quotes

Even limited knowledge of scriptures is beneficial to a person whose inner eye is opened, just as the light of even one lamp is sufficient to show the path to a person whose eyes are open. (99) [When we advance to a certain state, we can make much better use of our learning.]


PT Barnum Quotes

After securing the right vocation, you must be careful to select the proper location. ... When I was in London in 1858, I was passing down Holborn with an English friend and came to the "penny shows." They had immense cartoons outside, portraying the wonderful curiosities to be seen "all for a penny." Being a little in the "show line" myself, I said "let us go in here." We soon found ourselves in the presence of the illustrious showman, and he proved to be the sharpest man in that line I had ever met. He told us some extraordinary stories in reference to his bearded ladies, his Albinos, and his Armadillos, which we could hardly believe, but thought it "better to believe it than look after the proof." He finally begged to call our attention to some wax statuary, and showed us a lot of the dirtiest and filthiest wax figures imaginable. They looked as if they had not seen water since the Deluge. "What is there so wonderful about your statuary?" I asked. "I beg you not to speak so satirically," he replied, "Sir, these are not Madam Tussaud's wax figures, all covered with gilt and tinsel and imitation diamonds, and copied from engravings and photographs. Mine, sir, were taken from life. Whenever you look upon one of those figures, you may consider that you are looking upon the living individual." Glancing casually at them, I saw one labelled "Henry VIII," and feeling a little curious upon seeing that it looked like Calvin Edson, the living skeleton, I said: "Do you call that 'Henry the Eighth?'" He replied, "Certainly, sir; it was taken from life at Hampton Court, by special order of his majesty, on such a day." He would have given the hour of the day if I had insisted; I said, "Everybody knows that 'Henry VIII.' was a great stout old king, and that figure is lean and lank; what do you say to that?" "Why," he replied, "you would be lean and lank yourself, if you sat there as long as he has." ... I called upon him a couple of days afterwards; told him who I was, and said: "My friend, you are an excellent showman, but you have selected a bad location." He replied, "This is true, sir; I feel that all my talents are thrown away; but what can I do?" "You can go to America," I replied. "You can give full play to your faculties over there; you will find plenty of elbow-room in America; I will engage you for two years; after that you will be able to go on your own account." He accepted my offer and remained two years in my New York Museum. He then went to New Orleans and carried on a traveling show business during the summer. Today he is worth $60,000, simply because he selected the right vocation and also secured the proper location.

Alexander Graham Bell Quotes

inventor of the telephone

I felt then [back when I was trying to invent the telephone] that my difficulty was my lack of knowledge about electricity, but I now realize that I would never have brought forth the telephone if I had known anything about electricity, for no electrician would have tried what I tried. The advantage I had was that I had studied sound all my life and knew something of its nature, the shapes of the vibrations that pass through the air when you talk, and other facts about sound. I had to go to work, with the assistance of Mr. Watson, to learn about electricity by my own experiments. No electrician would have been foolish enough to attempt the ridiculous experiments we tried. [Sometimes our knowledge makes us narrow-minded. It's not uncommon for the less knowledgeable to make discoveries that evade people who know more about a topic.]

Edward Bernays Quotes

(1891-1995) advertiser, propagandist

In some departments of our daily life, in which we imagine ourselves free agents, we are ruled by dictators exercising great power. A man buying a suit of clothes imagines that he is choosing, according to his taste and his personality, the kind of garment which he prefers. In reality, he may be obeying the orders of an anonymous gentleman tailor in London. This personage is the silent partner in a modest tailoring establishment, which is patronized by gentlemen of fashion and princes of the blood. He suggests to British noblemen and others a blue cloth instead of gray, two buttons instead of three, or sleeves a quarter of an inch narrower than last season. The distinguished customer approves of the idea. But how does this fact affect John Smith of Topeka? The gentleman tailor is under contract with a certain large American firm, which manufactures men's suits, to send them instantly the designs of the suits chosen by the leaders of London fashion. ... The suits made up according to the specifications are then advertised as the latest fashion. The fashionable men in New York, Chicago, Boston and Philadelphia wear them. And the Topeka man, recognizing this leadership, does the same.

[The] average citizen is the world’s most efficient censor. His own mind is the greatest barrier between him and the facts. His own 'logic proof compartments,' his own absolutism are the obstacles which prevent him from seeing in terms of experience and thought rather than in terms of group reaction.

Men are rarely aware of the real reasons which motivate their actions. A man may believe that he buys a motor car because, after careful study of the technical features of all makes on the market, he has concluded that this is the best. He is almost certainly fooling himself. He bought it, perhaps, because a friend whose financial acumen he respects bought one last week; or because his neighbors believed he was not able to afford a car of that class; or because its colors are those of his college fraternity.

It is chiefly the psychologists of the school of Freud who have pointed out that many of man's thoughts and actions are compensatory substitutes for desires which he has been obliged to suppress. A thing may be desired not for its intrinsic worth or usefulness, but because he has unconsciously come to see in it a symbol of something else, the desire for which he is ashamed to admit to himself. A man buying a car may think he wants it for purposes of locomotion, whereas the fact may be that he would really prefer not to be burdened with it, and would rather walk for the sake of his health. He may really want it because it is a symbol of social position, an evidence of his success in business, or a means of pleasing his wife.

Propaganda is of no use to the politician unless he has something to say which the public, consciously or unconsciously, wants to hear.

When the example of the leader is not at hand and the herd must think for itself, it does so by means of clichés, pat words or images which stand for a whole group of ideas or experiences. Not many years ago, it was only necessary to tag a political candidate with the word "interests" to stampede millions of people into voting against him, because anything associated with "the interests" seemed necessary corrupt. Recently the word Bolshevik has performed a similar service for persons who wished to frighten the public away from a line of action. By playing upon a old cliché, or manipulating a new one, the propagandist can sometimes swing a whole mass group emotions.

Bhutanese Proverbs

On the battlefield, there's no distinction between upper and lower class.

You must first walk around a little before you can understand the distance from the valley to the mountain.

Josh Billings Quotes

(1818-1885) humorist and philosopher

As scarce as truth is, the supply has always been in excess of the demand. [There's not much truth out there in the world--and there's even less of a demand for it. Even though truth is rare, there's still more of it than people want.]

Black Elk Quotes

(1863-1950) holy man

Grown men can learn from very little children—for the hearts of little children are pure. Therefore, the Great Spirit may show them many things that older people miss.

Napoleon Bonaparte Quotes

(1769-1821) French emperor

The best cure for the body is a quiet mind.

A leader is a dealer in hope.

Power is founded upon opinion.

The art of being sometimes audacious and sometimes very prudent is the secret of success.

A general should say to himself many times a day: “If the hostile army were to make its appearance in front, on my right, or on my left, what should I do?” And is he is embarrassed, his arrangements are bad; there is something wrong. He must rectify his mistake.

Napoleon Bonaparte Quotes

David Brinkley Quotes

(1920-2003) broadcast journalist

People have the illusion that all over the world, all the time, all kinds of fantastic things are happening; when in fact, over most of the world, most of the time, nothing is happening. [The public promotes the illusion that the world is filled with interesting occurences.]

Jean de la Bruyere Quotes

(1645-1696) writer

The great gift of conversation is less about displaying it ourselves than in drawing it out of others. Anyone who leaves your company pleased with himself and his own cleverness is very well pleased with you.

Buddha Quotes

(563 BC-483 BC) founder of Buddhism

[T]o satisfy the necessities of life is not evil. To keep the body in good health is a duty, for otherwise we shall not be able to trim the lamp of wisdom, and keep our mind strong and clear. [Some people get carried away with discipline, self-denial, etc. and it ends up creating hurdles on their spiritual path.]

The wise man will use the light he has to receive more light. He will constantly advance in the knowledge of truth.

A day of virtue and reflection is better than a hundred years of ignorance and unrestraint.

A day of courage and earnest striving is better than a hundred years of idleness and weakness.

The disciples of Gotama are ever awake and vigilant, and their thoughts day and night are always set on the Dhamma, their law.

Buddha Quotes

Bulgarian Proverbs

A gentle word opens an iron gate.

Samuel Parkes Cadman Quotes

(1864-1936) Christian radio preacher

A little experience often upsets a lot of theory.

Joseph Campbell Quotes

(1904-1987) writer on mythology

People say that what we are all seeking is meaning for life. I think that what we’re really seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our innermost being and reality, so that we can actually feel the rapture of being alive.

Andrew Carnegie Quotes

(1835-1919) businessmnan

No man will make a great business who wants to do it all himself or to get all the credit for doing it. [A businessman should be willing to share both the duties and the credit.]

No two minds in the group are exactly alike, but each person in the group does the thing that he is supposed to do, and he does it better than any other person in the world could do it.

Mr. Kloman's ambition had been to be in the office, where he was worse than useless, rather than in the mill devising and running new machinery, where he was without a peer. ... He was perhaps flattered by men who were well known in the community; and in this case he was led by persons who knew how to reach him by extolling his wonderful business abilities in addition to his mechanical genius...

After Mr. Kloman had passed through the bankruptcy court and was again free, we offered him a ten percent interest in our business... [with] the condition that he should not enter into any other business or endorse for others, but give his whole time and attention to the mechanical and not the business management of the mills. Could he have been persuaded to accept this, he would have been a multimillionaire; but his pride, and more particularly that of his family, perhaps, would not permit this. He would go into business on his own account, and, notwithstanding the most urgent appeals on my part, and that of my colleagues, he persisted in the determination to start a new rival concern with his sons as business managers. The result was failure and premature death.

How foolish we are not to recognize what we are best fitted for and can perform, not only with ease but with pleasure, as masters of the craft. More than one able man I have known has persisted in blundering in an office when he had great talent for the mill, and has worn himself out, oppressed with cares and anxieties, his life a continual round of misery, and the result at last failure. I never regretted parting with any man so much as Mr. Kloman. His was a good heart, a great mechanical brain, and had he been left to himself I believe he would have been glad to remain with us.

Andrew Carnegie Biography and Quotes

Dale Carnegie Quotes

(1888-1955) lecturer, public speaking expert, and success guru.

Liken what you wish people to accept to something they already believe. [If you want to present a new idea to people, find some way to connect it to an idea they already believe.]

Chad / Basutoland Proverbs

A man with too much ambition cannot sleep in peace.

Nicolas Chamfort Quotes

(1741-1794) writer

When a man and a woman have an overwhelming passion for each other, it seems to me, in spite of such obstacles dividing them as parents or husband, that they belong to each other in the name of Nature, and are lovers by Divine right, in spite of human convention or the laws.

It must be admitted that it is impossible to live in the world without playing an act from time to time. What distinguishes the honest man from the rogue is that he plays an act only if he must, and to escape danger; whereas the other actively seeks out occasions to do so. [There's a major difference between adapting to the world for the right reasons, and lying whenever we think it'll get us ahead.]

It must be admitted that in order to live happily in the world, there are sides of your soul that must be completely paralyzed. (130)

If we would please in society, we must be prepared to be taught many things we know already by people who don't know them. [In order to get on people's good side and please them, sometimes we need to patiently listen to them without disagreeing--and in some cases, that means pretending that they're informing us about something, even though we know way more about it than they do.]

Though it is commonly thought that the “art of pleasing” is a great way to achieve wealth, there is something that works far better: knowing how to be bored [--in other words, to tolerate boredom when we're with others]. In fact, the talent of acquiring wealth, like the one for succeeding with women, can be reduced practically to that.

He who cannot resort to the use of a joke, and who is inflexible in the spirit, is very often placed between the need for being false or pedantic—an annoying alternative from which an honest man withdraws himself, for the ordinary one, by grace and cheerfulness. (113)

Nowadays, people who love nature are accused of being romantic.

Charlie Chaplin Quotes

(1889-1977) comedian, actor, producer, director, and writer

I don’t believe that the public knows what it wants; this is the conclusion that I have drawn from my career.

Lord Chesterfield / Philip Stanhope Quotes

(1694–1773) British statesman

Remember that the wit, humor, and jokes, of most mixed companies are local. They thrive in that particular soil, but will not often bear transplanting. Every company is differently circumstanced, has its particular cant and jargon; which may give occasion to wit and mirth within that circle, but would seem flat and insipid in any other, and therefore will not bear repeating.

We love to be pleased better than to be informed

Patience is the most necessary quality for business, many a man would rather you heard his story than grant his request.

[Young people] have, commonly, an unguarded frankness about them; which makes them the easy prey and bubbles of the artful and the experienced; they look upon every knave or fool, who tells them that he is their friend, to be really so

Every excellency, and every virtue, has its kindred vice or weakness; and if carried beyond certain bounds, sinks into one or the other. Generosity often runs into profusion, economy into avarice, courage into rashness, caution into timidity, and so on:—insomuch that, I believe, there is more judgment required, for the proper conduct of our virtues, than for avoiding their opposite vices. Vice, in its true light, is so deformed, that it shocks us at first sight, and would hardly ever seduce us, if it did not, at first, wear the mask of some virtue. But virtue is, in itself, so beautiful, that it charms us at first sight; engages us more and more upon further acquaintance; and, as with other beauties, we think excess impossible; it is here that judgment is necessary, to moderate and direct the effects of an excellent cause. (64)

Chinese Proverbs

To make a man of yourself you must toil.

It is after a hundred battles that heroes are produced.

A hundred foot bamboo can progress yet another step.

Why so anxiously and busily manage so many evil matters? Drop them all and become a good man.

Wait till the Yellow River becomes clear, and how old will you be?

The Way can be delicate or strong, soft or hard, yin or yang, obscure or clear. It can wrap up Heaven and Earth. It is sufficient for all things.

The gods are in his skill.

Before the thought has arisen, the gods know it.

Man reasons in a thousand ways; the spirits only in [the right] one.

A good heart influences Heaven and Earth.

One sincere thought can influence Heaven and Earth.

Heaven knows and Earth knows—how can I alone know?

Heaven, having let me be born as a man, requires me to follow its doctrines.

The smallest desire to do good is—though not seen by man—certainly known to Heaven.

You may deceive people. You cannot deceive Heaven.

People doing the same things might have different motives.

Better to be without a book than to believe a book entirely.

Close to a blacksmith, learn to hammer out nails; close to a carpenter, learn how to use a saw.

You can’t talk of the ocean to a well-frog.

If an ox won't drink, you can't make him bend down his head.

The melon seller does not announce, “Bitter melons.”

If you want to avoid being cheated, ask for prices at three different stores.

Solve one problem, and you keep a hundred others away.

If a girl seems as shy as a mouse, you still have to look out for the tiger within her.

He who waits for a roast duck to fly in his mouth must wait a very long time.

It is easier to visit friends than to live with them.

A hobbling cat is better than a fast horse when rats swarm the palace.

In a group of many words, there is bound to be a mistake.

[Even] with half of the Analects [put into use], the country can be [well] ruled.

With a helmsman [i.e. leader] that is not nervous, the passengers [i.e. followers] [will feel] secure.

Don’t go tens of miles to sell firewood, or hundreds of miles to to buy grain.

All language is not in books, nor all thoughts in language.

He who has seen little is astonished at much.

If a man keeps his mouth shut, his words become proverbial.

The way to close the mouth of a slanderer is to treat him with contempt.

A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.

Joy is not a horse. You cannot harness it.

A man who cannot tolerate small misfortunes can never accomplish great things.

If you want your children to have a peaceful life, let them suffer a little hunger and a little coldness.

The people who talk the best are not the only ones who can tell you the most interesting things.

To know another is not to know that person’s face, but to know that person’s heart.

Better the cottage where one is merry than the palace where one weeps.

Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, feed him for life.

He who has never been cheated cannot be a good businessman.

Tenacity and adversity are old foes.

Of all female qualities, a warm heart is the most valuable.

Before preparing to improve the world, first look around your own home three times.

If you want an audience, start a fight.

Married couples tell each other a thousand things without speech.

What is earned with hard labor is eaten with pleasure. {We often value thngs more when we've worked hard for them.]

The people sitting in the free theatre seats are the first ones to boo.

Chu Chih-yu Quotes

Ching [mind concentration] is a virtue that is vital for all people. Each person comes in the course of his life to a crossroad where, if his thoughts are confused and he loses a grip over himself, he can go the wrong way and even become insane. But if he controls himself, he can take the right way and become a Sage.

Chung Yung Quotes

The way of the superior man may be compared to what takes place in traveling, when to go to a distance we must first traverse the space that is near, and in ascending a height, when we must begin from the lower ground. 15:1

When we have intelligence resulting from authenticity (ch'eng), this condition is to be ascribed to nature; when we have authenticity resulting from intelligence, this condition is to be ascribed to instruction. But given the authenticity, there shall be the intelligence; given the intelligence, there shall be the authenticity. 21

Frank A. Clark Quotes

It’s hard to detect good luck—it looks so much like something you’ve earned.

Ty Cobb Quotes

(1886-1961) baseball player

Every great batter works on the theory that the pitcher is more afraid of him than he is of the pitcher.

Charles Caleb Colton Quotes

(1780-1832) author, clergyman, sportsman, gambler, and wine merchant

[Pride] makes some men ridiculous, but prevents others from becoming so.

It is always safe to learn, even from our enemies, seldom safe to venture to instruct, even our friends.

We hate some persons because we do not know them; and we will not know them because we hate them.

We should pray with as much earnestness as those who expect everything from God; we should act with as much energy as those who expect everything from themselves.

The first consideration with a knave, is how to help himself, and the second, how to do it, with an appearance of helping you.

Confucius Quotes

I used to expect people to do what they said--but now I just listen to what they say and then observe what they do. (Analects 5:9)

[T’an T’ai appeared to be a superior person. Confucius thought he had great potential, so he took him in as a disciple. However, after interacting with him for a while, Confucius discovered that his conduct didn't match what he appeared to be. Ts’ai Yu’s speech was brilliant and cultivated. Confucius thought he had having great potential, so he took him in as a disciple. However, after interacting with him for a while, Confucius discovered that his wisdom didn't match his speaking skill. Thus, Confucius said,] “Should I pick people based on their appearance? I made a mistake with T’an-t’ai. Should I pick people based on their speech? I made a mistake with Ts’ai Yu.” (Han Fei Tzu)

Tzu Hsia said to Confucius, “What do you think of Yen Hui?”

Confucius said, “Yen Hui has compassion—more than I do.”

“And Tzu Kung?”

“Tzu Kung is a better speaker than I am.”

“And Tzu Lu?”

“Tzu Lu is incredibly brave—much more than I am.”

“And Tzu Chang?”

“Tzu Chang he can keep dignity better than I can.”

Tzu Hsia then remarked, “So how come all four of them study under you?”

Confucius said, “Sit down and let me tell you. Yen Hui is compassionate, but is also inflexible about it. Tzu Kung is a great speaker, but he does not know when to stop talking. Tzu Lu is very brave, but he lacks prudence. Tzu Chang is very dignified, but unpleasant in social interaction. ... Even if I could, I wouldn't exahnge their virtues for my own. And that's why they'e intent on learning from me.” [Lieh Tzu]

If you don't keep things within the bounds of what's appropriate, then respectfulness becomes petty, prudence becomes timid, bravery becomes rash, and uprightness becomes intolerant. (Analects 8:2)

If we lack the love of learning, then love of goodness will be beclouded by foolishness/being-deceived, love of knowledge/wisdom will be beclouded by vagueness, speculation, and superficial generalization, love of sincerity will be beclouded by deception/harm/insensibility, love of straightforwardness will be beclouded by rudeness/misdirected-judgment, love of valor/boldness will be beclouded by unruliness/lack-of-control, and love of persistence/firmness will be beclouded by stubbornness/foolishness/rashness. (Analects 17:8)

Though [even] the Combined Army can have its commander taken away, no person can have his free will taken away. (Analects 9:25)

The superior person doesn't confine himself to praising people with his words; and so the people prove loyal to him. Thus, when he asks about those who are suffering from cold, he clothes them; or those who are suffering from want, he feeds them; and when he praises someone’s good qualities, he gives them rank. (Li Chi 29:48)

Therefore the superior should by all means be careful in what he likes and dislikes. This will make him an example to the people. (LC 30:4)

The individual can make the Way great. The Way doesn't [in an of itself] make the individual great. (Analects 15:28)

A true aspirant doesn't experience ups and downs due to wealth and high status or poverty low status. He feels no disgrace that rulers and kings [may try to inflict]; he is above the bonds that elders and superiors [may try to impose]; and superior officers cannot distress him. That's a true aspirant--as opposed to the "aspirants" we often hear about. (Li Chi 38:19)

When you see worthiness, think of emulating it. When you see unworthiness, inwardly examine yourself. (Analects 4:17)

I only instruct and guide people who are eager and have a feeling of urgency. If I present a part and someone doesn't come back with the rest, I won't continue. (Analects 7:8)

Once, Duke Ai of Lu [State] said to Confucius, "In running the state, I aim to avoid 'getting confused due to a lack of advice.' And yet, I've found that consulting with my officials usually leads to disorder."

Confucius said, "When an enlightened sovereign consults his ministers, one minister might know while another might not, and the sovereign can preside over a conference while the ministers earnestly discuss the affairs before him. But nowadays, the officials of Lu all publicly parrot the opinions of [a wealthy and powerful man by the name of] Chi Sun. The state falls under the sway of the same bias--and even though you consult with everyone, the state cannot help but become disorderly." (Han Fei Tzu)

The superior person is tough, but not merely inflexible. (Analects 15:36)

There was Yen Hui; he loved learning (hsueh): he didn't misdirect anger; he didn't repeat mistakes. (Analects 6:2)

The superior person is dignified/confident/self-possessed but not arrogant and vain. (Analects 13:26)

By leading people with laws and regulating them with punishments, they'll [merely] seek to escape [punishments], but have no sense of shame [over wrongdoing]. (Analects 2:3)

Yen P’ing Chung was good at interpersonal relations. No matter how long or how well he knew someone, there would be mutual respectfulness the entire way. (Analects 5:16)

He does not [hastily] agree with those who think like himself, nor condemn those who think differently.(Li Chi 38:15)

The superior person is dignified (jin er), but doesn't fight for it. He's sociable, but not clannish. (Analects 15:21)

Petty people are difficult to deal with. If you're familiar with them, they're disrespectful/immodest; if you maintain a distance, they're resentful. (Analects 17:25)

Congo Proverbs

A day of hunger is not starvation.

If you are too modest, you will go hungry.

The teeth are smiling, but is the heart?

You do not teach the paths of the forest to an old gorilla.

Robert E. M. Cowie Quotes

Unless the man who works in an office is able to “sell” himself and his ideas, unless he has the power to convince others of the soundness of his convictions, he can never achieve his goal. He may have the best ideas in the world, he may have plans which would revolutionize entire industries. But unless he can persuade others that his ideas are good, he will never get the chance to put them into effect.

Frank H. Crane Quotes

(1912-) author

You often get a better hold upon a problem by going away from it for a time and dismissing it from your mind altogether.

Croatian Proverbs

It's easy for someone to talk about fasting when he has a full belly.

Samuel McChord Crothers Quotes

The trouble with facts is that there are so many of them.

Cuban Proverbs

Brief encounters can result in long relationships.

Danish Proverbs

Truth must be seasoned to make it palatable.

Money is more eloquent than a dozen members of parliament.

Many a man is a good friend but a bad neighbor.

Jefferson Davis Quotes

Never be haughty to the humble; never be humble to the haughty.

Edgar Degas Quotes

Painting is easy when you don’t know how, but very difficult when you do.

Wallace B. Donham Quotes

Rules a man must have, if he is to play the business game successfully. But all the rules in the world... will not make him win unless he knows how to use them and can figure out how the other fellow is likely to think and act. What are his motives and his interests? Who are his friends? Where do his profits come from? The search for and discovery of the motives of the other side in a trade or a negotiation is one of the first essentials to success.

No book on business effectively warns you that if the boss is prejudiced against men who wear red neckties, it is your business to know it. Yet such little human elements are of great importance. We train our men to realize that understanding the other fellow is just as important as the rules; that they must think his thoughts and, if possible, think them first.

Maggie Doyne Quotes

One thing that I've learned as of late is that I'm a much better mom, and a much better person when I'm not stressed, when I've taken time to myself to go for a walk, or read a book, or just breathe a little.

Edmuresay Quotes

He's [my drunk friend] running to the bathroom [in Las Vegas at the Hofbrauhaus], pushes the door open, and frantically searches for the first thing he can puke into. That happened to be one of those metal towel trash cans mounted to the wall. He gets about 25% of the puke in the can and the rest is running down the sides of the can and on to the floor.

Now, puking in the bathroom of the Hofbrauhaus is somthing that happens many times a night. So they have a employee whos job is to clean up the puke, spray some cologne on the guy, and give him some mouthwash.

The guy looks at my buddy's puke, looks at me, and then gets ready to do his job. My buddy looks at the guy and says, "Look bro, I may be drunk as shit, but there's no way I'm letting you clean up my puke."

He gets on his hands and knees and cleans up every drop of his own puke like it was his job. The bathroom attendant just kept telling me, "No one does this, man. Your friend is a REALLY good guy. Thank you so much."

I can't fully describe just how happy it made this guy to see someone clean up his own puke.

Kaibara Ekken Quotes

(1630-1714) Neo-Confucian philosopher


Sincerity is the mind of the kami [gods]… if one has a mind of sincerity, the kami will surely respond. (Divine Injunctions)

Yen Chih-t’ui said, “It is difficult to be born with a human body. Do not pass your time in vain.” He said this because being born as a human and being superior to other things is truly fortunate. If people could be reborn in in this world, even if they were negligent this time and did not know the human Way, they could rely on being born next time as a human. But since we cannot be reborn, we ought to live as a human being by learning the Way and morally cultivating ourselves. We should not carelessly waste our time. If we do not know the Human Way and if we live aimlessly, it is of no avail to have been born as a human. This is lamentable.

If we lack a will to know the Way, if we have poor teachers, and if our path of scholarship is wrong, we won't get results, no matter how much of an effort we make and how diligently we study.

The basis of learning is establishing a resolve. The resolve is the mind/heart’s direction. Establishing a resolve is knowing and practicing the Way by thinking earnestly and fervently with a mind/heart with an aim of becoming a superior person. If we study without a goal, we won't be successful--as stated in the ancient saying, "Establishing one's resolve is half of learning." ... In establishing a goal, we must have courage and not be lazy or timid. If we are lazy or ineffectual, we won;t make progress. ... Thus, it is good to keep single-mindedly on the Way, and not become enamored by extraneous things. In the History, it says, "If we trifle with things, we'll lose our aim." "Trifling with things" means that we distort the mind/heart by pampering the senses, indulging the desires, being fond of extraneous things, or becoming overly fond of various useless skills. If we become enamored by extraneous things, we'll lose the great goal of becoming a superior person by studying the Way. By trifling with and enjoying extraneous things, we'll lose our resolve.

Establishing a goal can be compared to the example of a person in the west thinking “I will go east.” Each day as he walks, he constantly thinks “Day and night I will proceed east.” This is establishing one’s resolve to go west. If he does this, he without a doubt will ultimately arrive at his destination.

TS Eliot Quotes

Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don't mean to do harm--but the harm does not interest them. Or they do not see it; or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.

Carl Elliott Quotes

I'm not sure when my perspective changed. It might have been when I met a biologist who writes fake scientific articles for the drug industry. It could have been when a friend confided that he used to produce fake television news stories promoting new drugs, or when a physician-researcher in Alabama was sent to federal prison for faking data in a clinical trial of the antibiotic Ketek. But the real turning point probably occurred when I came across a community of professional research subjects who fake their medical histories to get into high-paying clinical studies, then fake painful side effects when they want to get out. Fake science, fake news, fake researchers, fake subjects: (White Coat, Black Hat)

Jaques Ellul

(1912–1994) philosopher, law professor, sociologist, theologian, and Christian anarchist

[S]uccessful propaganda will occupy every moment of the individual's life: through posters and loudspeakers when he is out walking, through radio and newspapers at home, through meetings and movies in the evening.

English Proverbs

Half the world does not know how the other half lives.

In a calm sea, every man is a pilot.

Marie Ebner von Eschenbach Quotes

We are so vain that we even care for the opinion of those we don’t care for.

James Evans, Sr. Quotes

Now there are some people out there that ain’t nothing but animals. And they make you fight them to survive. And if you don’t fight them, they just keep picking at you and picking at you until you ain’t got nothing left.

Mark Edward

[As a clairvoyant,] You have to gauge the tone of a person's voice. If they are aggressive or laid back, in a hurry or skeptical. The first four or five words are important. ... All these things about yourself are relatable. Nine out of 10 times you will hit a nerve with them. Then I'd pause and let them jump in. People love talking about themselves and hear what you say about them. They like to imagine I'm in some far off convent, but really I'm ironing at home. And I'd try to be compassionate and sound as new age as you can. ... I would have note cards by my phone for specific answers. Pink for love. Yellow for travel. Green for money. Then I'd talk about a childhood memory of mine. Less is more. Eventually you will find something relatable. Just one or two firm connections, and you'll run with the ball. Once you make that hit, it pours out. And then you mirror. Let the person talk and then you listen and say, "I hear what you're saying is this," "I feel what you're saying." I fed them hope."

French Proverbs

Do not find fault with what you do not understand.

Remember that everyone you ever meet is sure to fear something, to love something, and to have lost something.

Sonya Friedman Quotes


Don’t count on others to hand your life to you. (On a Clear Day You Can See Yourself, p. 23)

No matter what you do in life, someone important to you isn’t going to like it. (38)

Some people are not capable of giving you what you’re trying to get from them. (38)

R. Buckminster Fuller Quotes

(1895-1983) poet, philosopher, inventor, and architect

Don’t fight forces; use them.

Gabon Proverbs

Bad friends will prevent you from having good friends.

John Kenneth Galbraith Quotes

In any great organization it is far, far safer to be wrong with the majority than to be right alone.

German Proverbs

A fence between makes love more keen.

No lie so gross that it does not find believers.

A good lie finds more believers than a bad truth.

Truth that is poorly timed is as bad as a lie.

Who does right is born of God.

Work is good, as long as you don’t forget to live.

Loving and singing are two things that should not be forced.

German Proverbs

Jon Gery Quotes

You just can't make everyone happy. It is a law. But if you try, and go a little bit out of your way, you could make someone smile. It is a law.

George Getty Quotes

You must never try to make all the money that’s in a deal. Let the other fellow make some money too, because if you have a reputation for always making all the money, you won’t have many deals.

J. Paul Getty Quotes

(1892-1976) oil tycoon, investor, and philanthropist

I would rather earn 1% off a 100 people’s efforts than 100% of my own efforts.

In times of rapid change, experience can sometimes be your worst enemy.

Ghanaian Proverbs

One lie spoils a thousand truths.

Abu Hamid Al-Ghazali Quotes

(1058-1128) Sufi philosopher

…The distinctive aspect of mysticism is something that cannot be understood by study, but only by dhawq [tasting / immediate experience]… There is a big difference between knowing the meaning and the causes of health and satiety, and being healthy and satisfied.

Paul Gilbert and Jeremy N.V. Miles Quotes

This study also found that those who see themselves as relatively down rank tend to blame themselves for criticism, while those who feel relatively superior, tend to blame others.

Jerry Gillies Quotes

Speaker and author of books such as Moneylove (1978) and Psychological Immortality (1981)

You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.

Ken Giuffre Quotes

Nothing rattled this man. For instance about 10 years ago I ran into him at my hospital. In his early 70's at the time he quietly snuck in for a major cancer operation so as not to worry his family. I saw him roughly 20 minutes prior to the start of surgery. He sat up in the stretcher, greeted me with his characteristic warm broad smile, and shook my hand with a calm strong energy more like a man waiting for a haircut.

... Mr. JLP ended up with a hugely successful company and like many, could have buried himself in the business. Instead he was a pillar of the community on the board of education, attending all his kids' football, baseball and hockey games, and serving as an usher in the local church. When Mrs JLP suffered a severe permanently-disabling stroke he remained by her side during what was more than a decade of difficulty for her. She was a devoted wife and mother who regularly entertained a huge contingency of friends and relatives at their houses and beach home. In her time of need he did not desert her. He also exposed his four children to the business side of life, early-on often entertaining customers in his own home and letting them see his 'business face' so that now his 3 sons run the business.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe Quotes

(1749-1832) novelist, poet, theologist, philosopher, and scientist

If we had to depend for our life upon the favor of others, we should never have lived at all; from their desire to appear important themselves, people gladly ignore our very existence. (Schopenhauer paraphrase)

One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with him.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe Biography and Quotes

Vincent Van Gogh Quotes

(1853-1890) eccentric artist

I am seeking, I am striving, I am in with all my heart.

Bobcat Goldthwait Quotes

Most people in showbiz are either bitter that they aren’t huge stars or unhappy that they are. From the Starbucks barista to Oscar winners, almost everyone thinks that they’re getting a raw deal.

Baltasar Gracian Quotes

Keep matters for a time in suspense. Admiration at their novelty heightens the value of your achievements. It is both useless and insipid to play with your cards on the table. (3)

Nothing depreciates a person more than to show he is just like anyone else. (289)

Do not condemn alone that which pleases all. There must be something good in a thing that pleases so many—even if it cannot be explained it is certainly enjoyed. Peculiarity is always hated and, when in the wrong, laughed at. (270)

Things pass for what they seem, not for what they are. Few see inside, many get attached to appearances. (99)

Do not become bad from sheer goodness—that is, by never getting angry. Such people without feeling are scarcely to be considered human. It does not always arise from laziness, but from sheer inability. To feel strongly on occasion shows personality; birds soon mock at the scarecrow. It is a sign of good taste to combine bitter and sweet. All sweets is diet for children and fools. It is a great evil to sink into such insensibility out of too great goodness. (266)

Baltasar Gracian Biography and Quotes

Gil Greengross and Geoffrey Miller Quotes

The public perceives comedians as ostentatious and flashy. Their persona on stage is often mistakenly seen interchangeably with their real personality, and the jokes they tell about their lives are considered by many to have a grain of truth in them. However, the results of this study suggest that the opposite is true. Perhaps comedians use their performance to disguise who they are in their daily life. Comedians may portray someone they want to be, or perhaps their act is a way to defy the constraints imposed on their everyday events and interactions with others.

Francesco Guicciardini Quotes

Pay more attention to what people should be expected to do based on their disposition and habits, and less attention to what's reasonable for them to do. (151)

If you've wronged someone, never be tricked into thinking you have a good reason to trust or confide in him again—even when he has honor or profit to gain should he come through for you. After all, people often become so consumed with the idea that someone else wronged them, that they'll be willing to harm themselves to get revenge—either because they value this satisfaction more, or because their passion prevents them from recognizing what would really be in their best interests. (150) [Don't expect people to be reasonable. Their drive for something like revenge might make them go so far as to (knowingly or unkowingly) sacrifice honor or money.]

If people were as discreet or grateful as they ought to be, then it would be best to benefit servants whenever you can on any occasion that offers you to do so. But experience (including my own) shows that as soon as servants are fulfilled or their master can't continue providing the benefits he did at first, they'll quickly abandon him. Thus, the master who looks after his own interests shouldn't be too generous, and should be more frugal than liberal, working on his servants by exciting their hopes rather than by satisfying them. But in order for this to work, he must sometimes be generous to one of them. This will be enough—for people by nature are moved more by hope than by fear, and are more exited and encouraged by the example of one person they see abundantly rewarded, than they are discouraged by the sight of many who haven't been well treated. (5)

Even though many people prove to be ungrateful, don't let that stop you from benefitting others—for not only is beneficence in itself a noble and almost divine quality, it may also happen that, as you benefit others, you'll come across someone to grateful that he'll make up for everyone else's ingratitude. (11) [Benefitting others makes you a better person--and that itself is a good reward, even if the people you benefit turn out to be ungrateful. Also keep in mind that for every few ungrateful people you come across, you might come across one who's extremely grateful, and goes above and beyond returning the favor.]

It is indeed great to have authority. If rightly used, it'll make you feared even beyond what you can do. Your subjects won't know how much authority you really have, and usually choose to give way to you almost at once, rather than test if you can do what you threaten. (40)

I commend those governors who, despite using few severities or punishments, know how to gain and maintain a reputation for strictness. (341)

A dissatisfied person will be reluctant to risk danger, even if he really wants to harm you. Instead, he'll wait for opportunities that might not ever never come. A desperate person, on the other hand, will seek out those opportunities, and jump into all kinds of revolutionary hopes and schemes. (131)

When people see you in a position where you have no choice but to do what they want, they'll think little of you and treat you accordingly. ...You should flee this humiliation as you'd flee fire. (196)

How true is that ancient saying “Place reveals the man”! Nothing so clearly reveals a person’s qualities so much as to give him place and power. How many are there who speak well, yet do not know how to do! And how many are there in the streets and marketplaces who seem to be capable people, but turn out to be shadows when employed! ... [Morover,] power reveals someone's true bent of mind and character. The higher someone's position is, the less there is stopping him from indulging his natural temper. (163, 253) [It's difficult to tell whether someone will be a good fit for a position.]

My experiences in government have shown me that when trying to bring about an agreement or compromise, it's good to move in only after letting both sides discuss and debate things at great length. When I used that approach, they'd both eventually grow weary and beg me to adjust their differences. And then, by doing what they asked for, and without crossing any lines, I'd get credit for accomplishing what I wouldn't have managed to do at first. (43)

When ambassador in Spain, I observed that whenever the Catholic King, Don Ferdinand of Aragon, a most prudent and powerful prince, wanted to do something new, he'd go about it in such a way so that even before his intention was made public, the whole court and people would be crying out and urging him to do it. (77)

If you have a plan that someone will probably oppose, here's a good way to get his support for it: make it seem like he's the originator and head of it. Lighthearted people especially are often won over by this tactic, since it satisfies their vanity, and they prefer empty honors to something they'd be better off seeking. (200)

We should value the real and substantial more than the ceremonial. And yet, it's unbelievable just how much people are influenced by courteous manners and pleasing words. And this because they all believe they deserve to be greatly esteemed, and thus will feel hurt if they find you aren't giving them the deference they're convinced they're due.

If you want people’s goodwill, be careful not to refuse their requests point-blank. Instead, answer them with generalities. After all, the person making the request might not need your help later, or something might happen that'll give you a good excuse for withholding it. Not to mention the fact that many people are foolish and easily tricked with words, and in many cases, you might satisfy someone with a smooth answer, even without doing what you can't or don't want to do; whereas, had you denied that person, he would've been displeased with you no matter what turn of events had taken place. (36)

It is honest and manly to never promise what you don't intend to do. However, people are unreasonable--and thus, even if you have a valid reason to deny someone, he'ill be dissatisfied. ... Therefore, seek to amuse with answers of general encouragement, and as far as possible, avoid committing yourself by positive engagements. (309)

Should necessity or anger move you to speak sharply to anyone, at least be careful to say what'll only offend that person. For instance, if you want to go after someone, don't vilify his country, family, or kinsfolk. It's a great folly to incur the resentment of many, when your purpose is to only vex one person. (7-8)

We often see the advantages of having a good name and reputation. And these advantages are hardly anything compared to those that are unseen, and that, led by the good opinion that prevails concerning you, come on their own, without your knowing why. (158)

We only see a small percentage of the advantages that come from friends and family. After all, occasions when you need their help are rare in comparison with the day-to-day benefits of knowing you can have their support when you will. (87)

Since friends are so valuable, never lose a chance to make them—for people are brought into constant contact with one another, and friends help and foes hinder at times and in places where you least expect it. (14)

Like others, I've sought honors and preferment. Moreover, I've often gotten more of them than I'd wished or hoped for. But they've always been less satisfying than I epxected. And this, if we well consider it, is a strong reason why we should disencumber ourselves from vain desires. (15)

[WHnen negotiating, it's better ] never to come at once to those questions that are of most moment, but postponing these to the last, allow yourself to be drawn towards them only step by step and reluctantly. (132)

[E]ven if it should be obvious that you're lying, a confident assertion or denial will often perplex and puzzle your listeners’ minds to some extent. (37)

Even if someone's a known bullshitter, his frauds still succceed at times. (105)

If you want to conceal or misrepresent one of your intentions, try to show others—with the strongest and gravest reasons possible—that you intend the opposite. When people think you're convinced that it makes sense to do something, they'll readily persuade themselves that you'll base your decisions on what reason dictates. (199)

If someone wants to get ahead in the world, he should hide his failures and exaggerate his successes. ... Worldly advancement depends more on people’s opinions than on reality. (86)

Though you have much to gain by being secretive, you have even more to gain by not appearing secretive to your friends. After all, most people feel slighted and offended when they see you unwilling to impart your affairs to them.

It's not desirable to gain a reputation for being suspicious and distrustful. (157)

How often we hear it said, “Had this been done or that not been done, this or the other result would have followed.” And yet, if it were possible to test these opinions, we'd find out how wrong they frequently are.(22)

In wars, those who attempt to spend the least always end up spending the most—for nothing demands a larger or more unstinted/lavish outlay of money than war. The more complete the preparations are, the sooner will the war be over; and since the failure to spend money will prolong the enterprise, it will ultimately cost far more.(149)

One who has sound sense can make great use of another who has fine parts; much more so than the other can make of him.

If you observe closely, you will find that not only the manners of people, but also their language and modes of speech, dress, style of building, methods of cultivation, and the like, alter from age to age; but, what is more remarkable, their sense of taste also alters, so that a kind of food that is relished by one generation is often displeasing to the next. (69)

If you would be someone employed in [worldly] affairs, never allow such affairs to leave your hold. You will not be able to recover them at your convenience. But if you continuously retain your hold on them, one will lead to another, even without your using any special diligence or industry to get them. (84)

To speak of “the people” is in truth to speak of a beast, mad, mistaken, perplexed, and lacking taste, discernment, or stability. (140)

The very same things that readily succeed and “accomplish themselves” when undertaken at the proper moment, will, if attempted prematurely, not only fail, but will often become impossible to succeed when their time does come. Thus, rather than rushing things hastily or precipitating events, we should await their season and maturity. (78)

For many for many things we must decide and act quickly. On the other hand, when we are surrounded by difficulties and trouble, procrastinating and gaining time can either extricate ourselves from troubles, or at least allow us to understand them better. (79)

Both in wars and in many other important matters, I have often seen preparations neglected due to impression that they were too late, and yet it has been seen afterwards that they would have been in time, and that the omission to make them has caused much loss. (162)

[If you are] found on the winning side... you will be credited even for what you had no part in. (176)

In matters of business, take this as a maxim: it's not enough to give things their beginning, direction, or impulse; we must also follow them up and continue our efforts until completion. People who conduct business this way contribute greatly to finishing things, while those who follow a different plan will often assume things are finished they've actually just begun, and their difficulties haven't been encountered yet ; such are the heedlessness, futility, and perversity of men, and such the lets and hindrances that things present in their own nature. (192)

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Charles F. Haanel Quotes

(1866-1949) writer and businessman

The subconscious processes are always at work; the only question is, are we to be simply passive recipients of this activity, or are we to consciously direct the work?

When you have learned to control yourself you will have found the “World Within” which controls the world without; you will have become irresistible; men and things will respond to your every wish without any apparent effort on your part.

Mental strength is secured in exactly the same way that physical strength is secured, by exercise.

Charles F. Haanel Biography and Quotes

Hebrew Proverbs

Don’t be too sweet, or else you’ll be eaten up; don’t be too bitter, or else you’ll be spitted out.

A defendant’s confession is worth a hundred witnesses.

A good son-in-law is like the acquisition of a new son; a bad one is like the loss of your daughter.

Han Fei Tzu Quotes

(c280 BC-233 BC) Philosopher and political theorist

For the most part, the difficulty in persuading people is found in reading/knowing someone else’s mind/heart and adapting your words to conform to it.

… Those who attemps remonstration, persuasion, explanation, or discussion before the throne must be careful to first observe the sovereign's loves and hates.

Praise other people who have similar actions to the person you are talking to, and esteem tasks that are in under the same category his tasks are.

In ancient times, Mi Tzu Hsia became popular with the ruler of Wei State. At the time, the laws of Wei State stated, “The punishment for using the royal carriage without permission is a double foot amputation.” One day, someone went into the palace late at night and informed Mi Tzu Hsia that his mother was sick. Upon hearing this, he forged a fake request from the ruler in order to use his carriage, and then took it to go see his mother. When the ruler found out about this, [not only was he not offended,] he only had good things to say, and remarked, “What a filial child! Over his concern for his mother, he went so far as to risk having his feet cut off!”

Another time, Mi Tzu Hsia was walking outdoors with the ruler, and began eating a peach. Tasting how delicious it was, he offered the remaining half to the ruler, who remarked, “Your love for me is truly genuine!—so much so that you have put your own appetite aside, and instead concern yourself with offering me good food!”

But many years later, when Mi Tzu Hsia’s looks had faded and the ruler was not enamored with him anymore, a charge was brought against him by the ruler, who remarked, “Don’t forget, this is the same guy who stole my carriage and offered me his half-eaten peach!”

Although Mi Tzu Hsia’s actions remained the same, he was initially praised from them, and later charged with wrongdoing—and this was all because the ruler’s love for him had converted into disdain.

If the ruler only takes advice from ministers of high rank, does not compare different opinions and testify to the truth, and uses only one person as a channel of information, then ruin is possible.

Tzu Chang was pulling a push-cart to go across the arch of a bridge, but was unable to bear the weight. So, he sat on the shaft and began singing. Meanwhile, the passers-by from the front stopped, and those from the rear ran forward to help him, until the push-cart reached the top of the arch.

Suppose Tzu Chang had no technique to attract people. Then even if he exhausted himself to death, the cart would not have been able to go across the bridge. The reason why he did not exhaust himself while the cart went up the arch of the bridge was because he had the technique to make use of people.

Tsao Fu managed four horses. He drove them at maximum speed, maneuvered them expertly, and could go in any direction he wanted. He could mange the horses in whatever way he wanted because he was in control of the whip and reins. But, when a jumping pig scared the horses, Tsao Fu lost control of the horses. This is not because the severity of the whip and rein decreased. This is because his authority over the horses was superceded by the impact of the jumping pig.

And if someone only looked at a person’s features, clothing, and speech, even Confucius would not be able to say what sort of a person he is. Yet if one tests him in government position and sees what he does, then even someone with so-so judgment would be able to know if he is wise or not.

Han Fei Tzu Quotes

Hannibal Quotes

(247 BC-183 BC) Carthaginian general

We will either find a way, or make one.

Many things which nature makes difficult become easy to the man who uses his brains.

Julius Charles Hare and Augustus William Hare Quotes

Be what you are. This is the first step towards becoming better than you are. (Guesses At Truth, 1827)

William Hazlitt Quotes

(1778-1830) writer and humanist

The definition of genius is that it acts unconsciously; and those who have produced immortal works, have done so without knowing how or why. The greatest power operates unseen. (The Plain Speaker, 1826)

Moshimasa Hikita Quotes

The truly upright is that which flows out of your genuine innermost self as a result of the sincerity shown by the kami [gods]; on all occasions, you must exert this sincerity to the utmost, even in the most minor of your activities. (Records of the Divine Wind)

Hillel Quotes

In a place where there are no men, strive to be a man. (Pirke Avot 2:6)

Hippocrates Quotes


Doing nothing is sometimes a good remedy.

Adolph Hitler Quotes

The great mass of people will more easily fall victim to a big lie than a small one.

The art of leadership... consists in consolidating the attention of the people against a single adversary and taking care that nothing will split up that attention.

The leader of genius must have the ability to make different opponents appear as if they belonged to one category.

I use emotion for the many and reserve reason for the few.

Sooner will a camel pass through a needle’s eye than a great man be “discovered” by an election.

Adam Hochschild Quotes

People are more likely to care about the suffering of others in a distant place if that misfortune evokes a fear of their own.

Eric Hoffer Quotes

(1902-1983) writer

Nonconformists travel as a rule in bunches. You rarely find a nonconformist who goes it alone..

The Holy State Quotes

He that falls into sin is a man; that grieves at it, is a saint; that boasteth of it, is a devil.

Soichiro Honda Quotes

If you hire only those people you understand, the company will never get people better than you are. Always remember that you often find outstanding people among those you don't particularly like.

When Congress passes new emission standards, we [Honda Motor Co.] hire 50 more engineers and GM hires 50 more lawyers.

The value of life can be measured by how many times your soul has been deeply stirred.

Horace Quotes

(65 BC-8 BC) philosopher and poet

Wisdom at proper times will forget.

Colonel Edward M. House Quotes

(1858-1938) American diplomat, politician, advisor to President Woodrow Wilson

After I got to know Mr. [Woodrow] Wilson, I learned that the best way to convert him to an idea was to plant it in his mind casually, but so as to interest him in it, to get him thinking about it on his own account. The first time this worked, it was an accident. I had been visiting with him at the White House and urged a policy on him that he appeared to disapprove. But several days later, at the dinner table, I was amazed to hear him trot out my suggestion as his own.

Hsun Tzu Quotes

(310 BC-219 BC) Confucian philosopher

In learning, nothing is more advantageous than being near a worthy learner.

Discipline your will, and you will have greater nobility than wealth and eminence. Consider the Way to be your riches, and you will not need to be discomposed standing before kings and dukes. Thoroughly examine yourself internally, and you will disregard external things.

The superior person is cautious about untried doctrine, actions which have not been previously seen, and plans that may have been unheard among people.

The starting point of wisdom must be to consider the desires necessary, but to guide them. ... Although desires cannot be removed, their pursuit can be temperate.

In general, when people choose, they never get only what they desired, and never lose only what they disliked. [In other words, they always end up with some sort combination of what they desired and dislked.]

When seeing something desirable, think of whether it also could eventually involve what is detestable. When seeing something beneficial, think of whether it also could eventually involve harm. Weigh the total of one against that of the other, maturely calculate, and then determine the relative merits of choosing or reusing your desires and aversions. This way, you will regularly avoid failure and becoming ensnared by your choices.

All things are one section of the Way. One thing is a section of all things. ... The Way is constant, and includes all changes. One aspect is not sufficient to present the whole. Those with partial knowledge perceive an aspect of the Way, but are unable to know its totality.

Huai Nan Tzu Quotes

Long ago, Kung Sung Lung told his disciples, “I have no use for people without talent.”

A guest came along wearing cheap clothing--and upon being interviewed, he said, “Your servant has the talent of being able to shout.”

Kung Sung looked him up and down and said to his disciples “Have we any criers?” “We have none,” was the reply, and thereupon, the King ordered this stranger to be entered on the register. A few days later, the disciples went to call on Yen Wang for consultation: on coming to a river, the ferry boat was found to be far away at the opposite bank. So the newly-enlisted crier was ordered to vociferate his loudest. The boat came, after he shouted once.

It is written that "The Sage does not readily overlook the service of anyone with ability."

Li Chu's vision was so good, that he could see a needlepoint from many yards away--and yet, he couldn't see the fish in a pool. [Master Musician] Shih Kuang was so perceptive, that he could distinguish the winds from the eight quarters and harmonize the five notes of the eight scales--and yet, his hearing wouldn't let him discern anything more than a few miles off.

What can be expected from one person should not be above what one man’s strength can bear. .... Each man is expert in his own speciality, and concentrates on that which he desires to be proficient in.

Yen Hsin Chu of Liang Fu was a bandit, but rose to be a loyal minister of Ch’i. Tuan Kan Mu was a piece-goods broker of Ts’in, and became the instructor of Baron Wen. Meng Mao married his sister-in-law and had five sons by her, but became the Prime Minister of Wei, pacified its turbulence, and dissipated the national troubles. Ching Yang was an unkempt drunkard and whoremonger, but as a General of Wei, he brought the Feudal Lords to their knees. Now all these men had each his shortcomings; yet their work and renown have not perished.

Yao, Shun and Wu Wang were not experts in any one thing, like their assistants. ... They were, however, masters in estimating people's abilities.

Pei Li Hsi was a cattle-broker, I Yin a cook, T’ai Kung was a butcher, Ning Ch’i a ballad singer--and they all went on to become great ministers we still talk about to this day. Before they rose to power, the public loked at their low, degrading occupations, considered them degenrates, and were unable to appreciate their general excellencies. ... It took the penetration of [Empreror] Yao to discern their merits, whilst they were as yet undistinguished. This is the way Yao knew [his successor] Shun. ... If a typical person relies on his own observations and intelligence, he won't be able to properly determine if someone is worthy. ... Ordinary people can't duplicate Yao's discovery of Shun. They lack the acumen for discovering people. ... Mediocre princes and governors of the world are sometimes easily deceived by appearances.

The musician Han Tan composed a new tune, but told people is was the creation of [the renowned musician] Li Chi'i. Everybody strove to learn it. But on hearing later that it was not his creation, they gave it up. They really didn’t judge from its merit as music. ... They were enamored of a name. …

Hsiang T’o, a child of seven years, was a teacher of Confucius who paid heed to his words. A youth speaking to an elder generally gets his face slapped; but this boy was saved a castigation by the wisdom of his words.

When society is orderly, a fool alone cannot disturb it. When society is chaotic, a Sage alone cannot bring it order.

It would be useless to tell the fish in the well about the horizon of the great ocean, because it is cribbed in a narrow place. ... It would be useless to discuss broad views with a narrow-minded scholar: he is bound to the conventional and tied to his own orthodoxy.

Hu Tzu Quotes

There is a Principle of Creation that is uncreated; there is a Principle of Change that is unchanging. The Uncreated is able to create life; the Unchanging is able to effect change. The created cannot but continue creating; the changed cannot but continue evolving. Hence, there is constant creation and constant changing. The law of constant creating and of constant changing at no time ceases to operate. So is it with the Yin and the Yang, so is it with the Four Seasons. (Lieh Tzu 1)

Hungarian Proverbs

A habit is first a wanderer, then a guest, and finally the boss.

Margaret Wolfe Hungerford Quotes

(1855-1897) novelist

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. (Molly Bawn)

Ray Hyman

I discovered early on that by playing the scientific game I lost the PR game. As a scientist I have to qualify my answers, and this does not make for good PR or good sound bites. For example, when the CIA remote viewing experiments story broke and Nightline had a show on it, I was supposed to be, on but Ed May objected to my participation, so they got the head of the CIA on instead. But he didn't really know the statistics or the research protocol. And even when I did do some shows on it, like Larry King Live, they mostly wanted to talk about the waste of taxpayers' money. They definitely did not want to talk about the data, the research methods, or the statistics.

To be popular with your fellow man, tell him what he wants to hear ... about himself.

"Cold reading" is a procedure by which a "reader" is able to persuade a client, whom he has never before met, that he knows all about the client's personality and problems. At one extreme this can be accomplished by delivering a stock spiel, or "psychological reading," that consists of highly general statements that can fit any individual. ... You can achieve a surprisingly high degree of success as a character reader even if you merely use a stock spiel which you give to every client. ...Several laboratory studies have had excellent success with the following stock spiel (Snyder and Shenkel 1975): "Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic. At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary and resented. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. You pride yourself on being an independent thinker and do nor accept others' opinions without satisfactory proof. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. Disciplined and controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside. Your sexual adjustment has presented some problems for you. While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself. You have a strong need for other people to like you and for them to admire you." Interestingly enough, the statements in this stock spiel were first used in 1943 by Bertram Forer (1948) in a classroom demonstration of personal validation. He obtained most of them from a newsstand astrology book. Forer's students, who thought the sketch was uniquely intended for them as a result of a personality test, gave the sketch an average rating of 4.26 on a scale of O (poor) to 5 (perfect). ... Almost 30 years later students give the same sketch an almost identical rating as a unique description of themselves. ...

A great deal of the success of the spiel depends upon "setting the stage." The reader tries to persuade the client that the sketch is tailored especially for him or her. The reader also creates the impression that it is based on a reliable and proven assessment procedure. The way the sketch is delivered and dramatized also helps. ...

A reader who relies on psychological readings will usually have memorized a set of stock spiels. He then can select a reading to deliver which is relatively more appropriate in the general category that the client fits--a young unmarried girl, a senior citizen, and so on. ...

The cold reading, at its best, provides the client with a character assessment that is uniquely tailored to fit him or her. ... The cold reader goes beyond ... common denominators by gathering as much additional information about the client as possible. Sometimes such information is obtained in advance of the reading. ... Most cold readers, however do not need such advance information. The cold reader basically relies on a good memory and acute observation. The client is carefully studied. The clothing--for example, style, neatness, cost, age--provides a host of cues for helping the reader make shrewd guesses about socioeconomic level, conservatism or extroversion, and other characteristics. The client's physical features--weight, posture, looks, eyes, and hands provide further cues. The hands are especially revealing to the good reader. The manner of speech, use of grammar, gestures, and eye contact are also good sources. To the good reader the huge amount of information coming from an initial sizing-up of the client greatly narrows the possible categories into which he classifies clients. His knowledge of actual and statistical data about various subcultures in the population already provides him the basis for making an uncanny and strikingly accurate assessment of the client.

But the skilled reader can go much further in particularizing his reading. He wants to zero in as quickly as possible on the precise problem that is bothering the client. On the basis of his initial assessment he makes some tentative hypotheses. He tests these out by beginning his assessment in general terms, touching upon general categories of problems and watching the reaction of the client. If he is on the wrong track the client's reactions, eye movements, pupillary dilation, other bodily mannerisms will warn him. When he is on the right track other reactions will tell him so. ... The good reader quickly hits upon what is bothering the customer and begins to adjust the reading to the situation. By this time, the client has usually been persuaded that the reader, by some uncanny means, has gained insights into the client's innermost thoughts. His guard is now down. Often he opens up and actually tells the reader, who is also a good listener, the details of his situation. The reader, after a suitable interval, will usually feed back the information that the client has given him in such a way that the client will be further amazed at how much the reader "knows" about him. ...

A good illustration of the cold reader in action occurs in a story told by the well-known magician John Mulholland. The incident took place in the 1930s. A young lady in her late twenties or early thirties visited a character reader. She was wearing expensive jewelry, a wedding band, and a black dress of cheap material. The observant reader noted that she was wearing shoes which were currently being advertised for people with foot trouble. (Pause at this point and imagine that you are the reader; see what you would make of these clues.) By means of just these observations the reader proceeded to amaze his client with his insights. He assumed that this client came to see him, as did most of his female customers, because of a love or financial problem. The black dress and the wedding band led him to reason that her husband had died recently. The expensive jewelry suggested that she had been financially comfortable during marriage, but the cheap dress indicated that her husband's death had left her penniless. The therapeutic shoes signified that she was now standing on her feet more than she was used to, implying that she was working to support herself since her husband's death. The reader's shrewdness led him to the following conclusion, which turned out to be correct: The lady had met a man who had proposed to her. She wanted to marry the man to end her economic hardship. But she felt guilty about marrying so soon after her husband's death. The reader told her what she had come to hear-- that it was all right to marry without further delay. ...

[T]he key ingredient of a successful character reading is confidence. If you look and act as if you believe in what you are doing, you will be able to sell even a bad reading to most of your subjects. ...Even readings that would ordinarily be rejected as inaccurate will be accepted if the reader is viewed as a person with prestige or as someone who knows what he is doing. ...

Gain his [your client's] cooperation in advance. Emphasize that the success of the reading depends as much upon his sincere cooperation as upon your efforts. (After all, you imply, you already have a successful career at reading characters. You are not on trial-- he is.) State that due to difficulties of language and communication, you may not always convey the exact meaning which you intend. In these cases he is to strive to reinterpret the message in terms of his own vocabulary and life. You accomplish two invaluable ends with this dodge. You have an alibi in case the reading doesn't click; it's his fault not yours! And your subject will strive to fit your generalities to his specific life occurrences. Later, when he recalls the reading he will recall it in terms of specifics; thus you gain credit for much more than you actually said. ...

Have a list of stock phrases at the tip of your tongue. Even if you are doing a cold reading, the liberal sprinkling of stock phrases amidst your regular reading will add body to the reading and will fill in time as you try to formulate more precise characterizations. ...

Always give the impression that you know more than you are saying. The successful reader, like the family doctor, always acts as if he knows much more. Once you persuade the client that you know one item of information about him that you could not possibly have obtained through normal channels, the client will automatically assume you know all. At this point he will typically open up and confide in you. ...

Finally remember the golden rule: Tell the client what he wants to hear. Sigmund Freud once made an astute observation. He had a client who had been to a fortune teller many years previously. The fortune teller had predicted that she would have twins. Actually she never had children. Yet, despite the fact that the reader had been wrong, the client still spoke of her in glowing terms. Freud tried to figure out why this was so. He finally concluded that at the time of the original reading the client wanted desperately to have children. The fortune teller sensed this and told her what she wanted to hear. From this Freud inferred that the successful fortune teller is one who predicts what the client secretly wishes to happen rather than what actually will happen (Freud, 1933).

I Ching Quotes

Small mishaps may, if they do not discourage one, lead on to fortune.

When we minutely investigate the nature and reasons of things till we have entered into the inscrutable and spiritual in them, we attain to the largest practical application of them; when that application becomes quickest and readiest and personal poise is secured, our virtue is thereby exalted. Proceeding beyond this, we reach a point which it is hardly possible to comprehend; we have thoroughly mastered the inscrutable and spiritual and understand the processes of transformation. This is the fulness of virtue. Appendix 3:2:33-34

Ibsen Quotes

Rob/deprive the average man of his life-illusion and you rob him also of his happiness.

Icelandic Proverbs

Pissing in your shoes won’t keep your feet warm for very long

Indian Proverbs

When a crow is killed by a storm, the fortuneteller says, “He died by my curse.”

Indonesian Proverbs

Most people don’t announce their faults with a gong.

John P.A. Ioannidis Quotes

Almost every single nutrient imaginable has peer reviewed publications associating it with almost any outcome.

Iranian / Persian Proverbs

Solved riddles look easy.

The way a house is decorated will tell much about its owner.

Don’t just take love—experience it.

You can close the city gates, but you can’t close the people’s mouths.

Only a heart can find the way to another heart.

I used to complain because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.

A quality statement often gets no answer.

A greedy man is always poor.

A single rose does not mean that it is spring.

A drowning man is not bothered by rain.

The joy of finding something is often worth more than what is found.

Iraqi Proverbs

All authors should prepare to encounter criticism.

Sometimes you must sacrifice your beard in order to save your head.

Irish Proverbs

He is bad that will not take advice, but he is a thousand times worse that takes every advice.

Italian Proverbs

It's easier to threaten than to kill.

He that will not strive in this world should not have come into it.

He who offends writes on sand, he who is offended on marble.

Many a true word is spoken in jest.

Not every question deserves an answer.

All the brains are not in one head.

If a fox is preaching, beware of your geese.

Beware of the person with nothing to lose.

As soon as a new law is made, a way around it is devised.

Experience runs a valuable school, but fools learn in no other.

The remedy is often worse than the disease.

Necessity is a great teacher.

Yes and no rule the world.

To the person who watches, everything reveals itself.

The sun passes over filth and is not dirtied.

Yielding is sometimes the best way of succeeding.

Natasha Jackson Quotes

[O]ne cannot appreciate another person without seeing some good in him. If one does not appreciate the other person in the slightest degree, one would be hard put to experience joy at any stroke of good fortune or success that may befall him. ...If one has a misanthropic view of mankind, regarding people as essentially evil and not worth being concerned about, one cannot, on the face of it, make much headway with any of The Four Divine Abidings. To have a sympathetic attitude towards human beings does not betoken an idealization of man, but rather a realistic appraisal: that, though often in error and grievously at fault, man has, nevertheless, the potential to rise above his darkness and ignorance into the light of knowledge and even to undreamed of heights of Nirvana.

Jamaican Proverbs

Yu shek man han, yu noh shek im heart.

Japanese Proverbs

A few kind words can warm three winter months.

It’s better to lie a little than to be unhappy.

Jesus ben Sirach / Ecclesiasticus Quotes

For there is a shame that brings sin; and there is a shame that brings glory and grace. 4:21

If you would get a friend, try him before you take him, and do not credit him easily. For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. 6:7-8

Samuel Johnson Quotes

(1709-1784) writer

We have less reason to be surprised or offended when we find others differ from us in opinion, because we very often differ from ourselves.

Every man, however hopeless his pretensions may appear to all but himself, has some project by which he hopes to rise to reputation; some art by which he imagines that the notice of the world will be attracted; some quality, good or bad, which discriminates him from the common herd of mortals, and by which others may be persuaded to love, or compelled to fear him. (Rambler 164)

No place affords a more striking conviction of the vanity of human hopes than a public library; for who can see the wall crowded on every side by mighty volumes, the works of laborious meditations and accurate inquiry, now scarcely known but by the catalogue...

I have often known very severe and lasting malevolence excited by unlucky censures, which would have fallen without any effect, had they not happened to wound a part remarkably tender. Gustulus, who valued himself upon the nicety of his palate, disinherited his eldest son for telling him that the wine, which he was then commending, was the same which he had sent away the day before as not fit to be drunk. Proculus withdrew his kindness from a nephew, whom he had always considered as the most promising genius of the age, for happening to praise in his presence the graceful horsemanship of Marius. And Fortunio, when he was privy counsellor, procured a clerk to be dismissed from one of the publick offices, in which he was eminent for his skill and assiduity, because he had been heard to say that there was another man in the kingdom on whose skill at billiards he would lay his money against Fortunio’s. (Rambler 40)

[H]e who expects from mankind, that they should give up established customs in compliance with his single will, and exacts that deference which he does not pay, may be endured, but can never be approved. …

The pride of men will not patiently endure to see one, whose understanding or attainments are but level with their own, break the rules by which they have consented to be bound, or forsake the direction which they submissively follow. All violation of established practice implies in its own nature a rejection of the common opinion, a defiance of common censure, and an appeal from general laws to private judgment: he, therefore, who differs from others without apparent advantage, ought not to be angry if his arrogance is punished with ridicule; if those whose example he superciliously overlooks, point him out to derision, and hoot him back again into the common road.

The pride of singularity is often exerted in little things, where right and wrong are indeterminable, and where, therefore, vanity is without excuse. But there are occasions on which it is noble to dare to stand alone. (Adventurer 131)

It is not often that any man can have so much knowledge of another as is necessary to make instruction useful. We are sometimes not ourselves conscious of the original motives of our actions; and when we know them, our first care is to hide them from the sight of others, and often from those most diligently, whose superiority either of power or understanding may entitle them to inspect our lives; it is, therefore, very probable, that he who endeavours to cure our intellectual maladies, mistakes their cause; and that his prescriptions avail nothing, because he knows not which of the passions or desires is vitiated. (Rambler 7)

A request made with diffidence and timidity is easily denied, because the petitioner himself seems to doubt its fitness… (Rambler 166) *

Pleasure is ... seldom such as it appears to others, nor often such as we represent it to ourselves. Of the ladies that sparkle at a musical performance, a very small number has any quick sensibility of harmonious sounds. But every one that goes has her pleasure. She has the pleasure of wearing fine clothes, and of showing them, of outshining those whom she suspects to envy her; she has the pleasure of appearing among other ladies in a place where the race of meaner mortals seldom intrudes, and of reflecting that, in the conversations of the next morning, her name will be mentioned among those that sat in the first row. (Idler 18)

I have now spent fifty-five years in resolving: having, from the earliest time almost that I can remember, been forming plans of a better life. I have done nothing. (Prayers)

Franklin P. Jones Quotes

(1887-1929) businessman

Nothing makes you more tolerant of a neighbor’s noisy party than being there.

Michael Jordan Quotes

I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot… When you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result.

Michael Jordan Biography and Quotes

William George Jordan Quotes

We know nothing of the trials, sorrows, and temptations of those around us; or of the secret struggles and worries, of perhaps a life-tragedy that may be hidden behind a smile. At times we even say to one who seems calm and smiling, “You ought to be supremely happy, you have everything a heart could wish for.” And it may be that at that very moment the person is passing alone through some grief when living seems like an agony from which there is no relief. Then our misjudgements only make them feel isolated from the rest of humanity.

Let us not add to the burden of another the pain of our judgements. If we are to guard our mouths from expressing them, then we must control our minds and stop continually assessing the acts of others, even in private.

Few there are who feel the positive joy of living, whose blood tingles and surges with the thrill of delight just at being alive. It means loving life in a big, free, unquestioning way, feeling it a wondrous, gladsome privilege, drinking it all in, with all it is and has of good or ill, not heroically from a half-filled cup but joyously and unstintedly as from some ever-gushing spring.

The greatest things in life are the commonplace. Their very profuseness, their wide distribution, their unfailing constancy have in a way cheapened them in our eyes as some people unconsciously grow to think too little of a friend they see too often. Familiarity throws an obscuring veil of illusion over them that hides from us their wonder and their revelation. The more we know them the less we know of them.

William George Jordan Quotes

Chief Joseph Quotes

(1840-1904) Nez Perce Native American leader

The earth and myself are of one mind.

I believe much trouble and blood would be saved if we opened our hearts more.

Joseph Joubert Quotes

(1754-1824) philosopher

A thought is often original, though you have uttered it a hundred times. It has come to you over a new route, by a new and express train of associations. (Pensees)

Children need models more than they need critics.

Junius Quotes

Men who are unequal to the labor of discussing an argument or wish to avoid it, are willing enough to suppose that much has been proved because much has been said.

Daniel Kahneman Quotes

(1934-) psychologist

Patient B suffered more -- his colonoscopy was longer, and every minute of pain that Patient A had, Patient B had, and more. ... The surprise is that Patient A had a much worse memory of the colonoscopy than Patient B... [because the] pain was at its peak at the very end. ... Now, what you could do with Patient A, and we actually ran clinical experiments, and it has been done, and it does work -- you could actually extend the colonoscopy of Patient A by just keeping the tube in without jiggling it too much. That will cause the patient to suffer, but just a little and much less than before. And if you do that for a couple of minutes, you have made the experiencing self of Patient A worse off, and you have the remembering self of Patient A a lot better off, because now you have endowed Patient A with a better story about his experience.

Imagine that for your next vacation, you know that at the end of the vacation all your pictures will be destroyed, and you'll get an amnesic drug so that you won't remember anything. Now, would you choose the same vacation? And if you would choose a different vacation, there is a conflict between your two selves, and you need to think about how to adjudicate that conflict, and it's actually not at all obvious, because if you think in terms of time, then you get one answer, and if you think in terms of memories, you might get another answer.

Ethan Kaplan Quotes

"Being social" online now takes about 6 hours out of my day. I long for the days where all I had was email.

Alex Karras Quotes

It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more “manhood” to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul & spirit, not in muscles & an immature mind.

Kashmir Proverbs

The healthy person experiences a healthy world.

The message spoken to the daughter is often aimed at the daughter-in-law.

Saving the mustard seeds in your hand might cause you to miss out on getting a watermelon.

Marta Kauffman Quotes

(1956-) TV writer, co-creator of Friends

It was so surprising to us how invested the audience was in these characters [on Friends], how desperately they wanted them to be happy, how putting them together made some kind of weird sense.

Helen Keller Quotes

(1880-1968) writer and social reformer

Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.

I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and [just] because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. (Hale?)

Helen Keller Biography and Quotes

Corita Kent Quotes

(1918-1986) artist

Love the moment and the energy of that moment will spread beyond all boundaries.

Ken Keyes, Jr.

(1921-1995) personal growth author and lecturer

When you accept yourself completely you do not have to maintain a phony front, drive yourself to achieve or feel insecure if people tune-in to you and what you are doing.

Hazrat Inayat Khan Quotes

(1882-1927) Sufi teacher and musician

Reality itself is its own evidence.

Life confuses man so much that there is hardly one among a thousand who really knows what he wants; and perhaps there is one among a million who knows what he wants; and perhaps there is one among a million who knows why he wants it; and even among millions you will not find one with the knowledge of why he should want it, and why he should not want it.

Harmon Killebrew Quotes

My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys”

Martin Luther King Jr. Quotes

(1929-1968) social activist

People who have a stake in their society protect that society—but when they don’t have it, they unconsciously want to destroy it.

Chuck Knox Quotes

(1932-) pro football coach

You can concede to an opponent something he hasn’t earned. It’s one thing to underestimate an opponent. But maybe the worst thing is to overestimate. You always play your strengths. But that doesn’t mean you become predictable.

Korean Proverbs

Anyone who goes hungry for three days will be inclined to steal.

Kuan Tzu

He who trusts petty men will lose gentelmen of worth.

Tzu Kung Quotes

Tzu Kung said, “Wen and Wu’s Way has not totally fallen—it can be found among people. The worthy remember the greater principles, and others of less hsien remember small parts—thus all possess Wen and Wu’s the Way. There was no one * Confucius could not learn from, yet there was no one who was his only teacher.” 19:22

Ali Khwaja Quotes

A good, emotional relationship is a two-way street, needing reciprocation, give and take--both the persons have to be involved in nurturing it.

Kyrgyz Proverbs / Kirghiz

The satiated do not understand the concern of the hungry.

Gina L.

Today, it’s almost two full years since I formally adopted my niece, Jackie, as my daughter. My brother passed away in a car accident three years ago when Jackie was only two-years-old. His ex-fiancé (they broke up before Jackie was born) took Jackie and disappeared for ten months. I found out through a friend at the police office that Jackie had been abused by her mother and that child services had placed her in foster care. I immediately applied for custody, and then full adoption. After a short battle, the formal adoption was finalized. Jackie has been living with me for almost two years now, but she has been very distant until recently. For some reason in the last few weeks she’s been opening up to me like never before, as if she’s finally healed her internal wounds. Just a few minutes ago she gave me a hug and called me “mom” for the very first time.

Francois duc de La Rochefoucauld Quotes

(1613-1680) soldier and writer

We do not wish ardently for what we desire only through reason. 469

A man often believes himself leader when he is led; as his mind endeavors to reach one goal, his heart insensibly drags him towards another.

The head is ever the dupe of the heart. 102

Self love is more cunning than the most cunning man in the world. 4

We are so used to disguising ourselves to others, that we end up disguising ourselves from ourselves. 119

Sincerity is an openness of heart that's rarely found in people. What we usually see is only an artful dissimulation to win the confidence of others. 62

Nothing prevents our being natural as much as our desire to seem so.

If we take the liberty to dwell on their faults, we cannot long preserve the feelings we should hold towards our friends and benefactors. 319

Every kind of conversation, however witty it may be, is not equally fitted for all clever persons; we should select what is to their taste and suitable to their condition, their sex, their talents, and also choose the time to say it.

There is an eloquent silence which serves to approve or to condemn, there is a silence of discretion and of respect.

[T]here is a tone, an air, a manner, which renders everything in conversation agreeable or disagreeable, refined or vulgar.

We often bore others when we think we cannot possibly bore them. 242

Interest, which is accused of all our misdeeds, often should be praised for our good deeds. (305)

To men who have deserved high praise, nothing should be more humbling than the lengths to which they will still go to get credit for petty things. 272

Numberless acts appear foolish whose secret motives are most wise and weighty. 163

Intrepidity is an extraordinary strength of soul that raises it above the troubles, disorders, and emotions that the sight of great perils can arouse in it. By this strength, heroes maintain a calm aspect and preserve their reason and liberty in the most surprising and terrible predicaments. 217

There are people whose faults become them, and others whose very virtues disgrace them. 251

We are nearer loving those who hate us, than those who love us more than we desire. 321

There are few virtuous women who are not tired of their part.

There may be talent/virtue without position, but there is no position without some kind of talent.

The world rewards the appearance of merit more often than merit itself. 166

Most things are praised or condemned only because it's fashionable to praise or condemn them.

It's much easier to seem fitted for posts we don't fill, than for those we do. 164

It's much easier to know people [in general] than it is to know a [specific] person. 436

We should earnestly desire but few things if we clearly knew what we desired. 439

It's easier to extinguish the first desire than to satisfy the ones that follow.

Few things are needed to make a wise man happy; nothing can make a fool content...

Before strongly desiring anything, we should examine the happiness of those who already posses it.

However wicked men may be, they do not dare condemn virtue openly. Thus, when they want to attack virtue, they pretend it is false or charge it with crimes. 489

Tom Landry Quotes

(1924-2000) one of the winningest pro football coaches of all time

Leadership is a matter of having people look at you and gain confidence, seeing how you react. If you’re in control, they’re in control.

Lao Tzu / Tao Te Ching Quotes

The Way that can be Way-ed is not the absolute Way. The name that can be named is not the absolute name. 1

The Sage goes back and is in front, detaches/outside and is preserved/within. Not self-fixated, her Self is fulfilled. 7

Latin Proverbs

We are born; we die.

You teach the dolphin to swim.

Johann Kaspar Lavater Quotes

(1741-1801) theologian, mystic, and poet

If you wish to appear agreeable in society, you must consent to be taught many things which you know already.

Johann Kaspar Lavater Quotes

Gustave Le Bon Quotes

(1841–1931) social psychologist, sociologist


As soon as a certain number of living beings are gathered together, whether they be animals or men, they place themselves instinctively under the authority of a chief.

There is not a summing-up of or an average struck between the element of a crowd. What really takes place is a combination followed by the creation of new characteristics… [When individuals form a crowd, they don't act the way the average individual would. The fact that they're together in one unit causes new qualities to spring up.]

Whoever be the individuals that compose a crowd, however like or unlike be their mode of life, their occupations, their character, or their intelligence, the fact that they have been transformed into a crowd puts them in possession of a sort of collective mind which makes them feel, think, and act in a manner quite different from that in which each individual of them would feel, think, and act were he in a state of isolation.

[A crowd] knows neither doubt nor uncertainty. … A suspicion transforms itself as soon as announced into incontrovertible evidence. [Crowds have a tendency to be sure about everything--to the point where they'll take a suspicion, and quickly regard it as proof.]

Crowds are only cognisant of simple and extreme sentiments; the opinions, ideas, and beliefs suggested to them are accepted or rejected as a whole, and considered as absolute truths or as not less absolute errors. This is always the case with beliefs induced by a process of suggestion instead of engendered by reasoning. [When people form a crowd, they become more receptive to extreme, one-sided ideas.]

Affirmation pure and simple, kept free of all reasoning and all proof, is one of the surest means of making an idea enter the mind of crowds. The conciser an affirmation is, the more destitute of every appearance of proof and demonstration, the more weight it carries.

In a crowd every sentiment and act is contagious.

Aart van der Leeuw Quotes

(1876-1931) writer

The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved; it is a reality to be experienced.

Mike LeFevre

Chicago steel mill worker - 37 years old in the early 70s (when he was interviewed), husband to a part time waitress / stay at home mom, father of two children

I'm a dying breed. A laborer. Strictly muscle work ... pick it up, put it down, pick it up, put it down. We handle between forty and fifty thousand pounds of steel a day. ...

You can't take pride any more. You remember when a guy could point to a house he built, how many logs he stacked. He built it and he was proud of it. ... I worked for a trucker one time. And I got this tiny satisfaction when I loaded a truck. At least I could see the truck depart loaded. In a steel mill, forget it. You don't see where nothing goes.

... My attitude is that I don't get excited about my job. I do my work but I don't say whoopee-doo. The day I get excited about my job is the day I go to a head shrinker. How are you gonna get excited about pullin' steel? How are you gonna get excited when you're tired and want to sit down? ...

It's the not-recognition by other people. To say a woman is just a housewife is degrading, right? Okay. Just a housewife. It's also degrading to say just a laborer. ...

When I was single, I could quit, just split. I wandered all over the country. You worked just enough to get a poke, money in your pocket. Now I'm married and I got two kids.

I worked on a truck dock one time and I was single. The foreman came over and he grabbed my shoulder, kind of gave me a shove. I punched him and knocked him off the dock. I said, "Leave me alone. I'm doing my work, just stay away from me, just don't give me the with-the-hands business." ... I would rather work my ass off for eight hours a day with nobody watching me than five minutes with a guy watching me. ...

... You know what I heard from more than one guy at work? "If my kid wants to work in a factory, I am going to kick the hell out of him." I want my kid to be an effete snob. Yeah, mm-hmm. (Laughs.) I want him to be able to quote Walt Whitman, to be proud of it. If you can't improve yourself, you improve your posterity. Otherwise life isn't worth nothing. ... I want to send my kid to college.

I work so damn hard and want to come home and sit down and lay around. But I gotta get it out. I want to be able to turn around to somebody and say, "Hey, fuck you." You know? (Laughs.) The guy sitting next to me on the bus too. 'Cause all day I wanted to tell my foreman to go fuck himself, but I can't. So I find a guy in a tavern. To tell him that. And he tells me too. I've been la in brawls. He's punching me and I'm punching him, because we actually want to punch somebody else. The most that'll happen is the bartender will bar us from the tavern. But at work, you lose your job.

This one foreman I've got, he's a kid. He's a college graduate. He thinks he's better than everybody else. He was chewing me out and I was saying, "Yeah, yeah, yeah." He said, "What do you mean, yeah, yeah, yeah? Yes, sir." I told him, "Who the hell are you, Hitler? What is this 'Yes, sir' bullshit? I came here to work, I didn't come here to crawl. There's a fuckin' difference." One word led to another and I lost. I got broke down to a lower grade and lost twenty-five cents an hour, which is a hell of a lot. ... He came over, after breaking me down. The guy comes over and smiles at me. I blew up. He didn't know it, but he was about two seconds and two feet away from a hospital. I said, "Stay the fuck away from me." He was just about to say something and was pointing his finger. I just reached my hand up and just grabbed his finger and I just put it back in his pocket. He walked away. I grabbed his finger because I'm married. If I'd a been single, I'd a grabbed his head. That's the difference.

You're doing this manual labor and you know that technology can do it. (Laughs.) Let's face it, a machine can do the work of a man; otherwise they wouldn't have space probes. Why can we send a rocket ship that's unmanned and yet send a man in a steel mill to do a mule's work? Automation? Depends how it's applied. It frightens me if it puts me out on the street. It doesn't frighten me if it shortens my work week. You read that little thing: what are you going to do when this computer replaces you? Blow up computers. (Laughs.) Really. Blow up computers. I'll be goddamned if a computer is gonna eat before I do! I want milk for my kids and beer for me. ...

If I had a 20 hour workweek, I'd get to know my kids better, my wife better. Some kid invited me to go on a college campus. On a Saturday. It was summertime. Hell, if I have a choice of taking my wife and kids to a picnic or going to a college campus, it's gonna be the picnic. But if I worked a 20 hour week. I could go do both. ...

The intellectuals, they always say there are potential Lord Byrons, Walt Whitmans, Roosevelts, Picassos working in construction or steel mills or factories. But I don't think they believe it. I think what they're afraid of is the potential Hitlers and Stalins that are there too. The people in power fear the leisure man. .... What do you think would happen in this country if, for one year, they experimented and gave everybody a 20 hour week? How do they know that the guy who digs Wallace today doesn't try to resurrect Hitler tomorrow? Or the guy who is mildly disturbed at pollution doesn't decide to go to General Motors and shit on the guy's desk? You can become a fanatic if you had the time. The whole thing is time. That is, I think, one reason rich kids tend to be fanatic about politics: they have time. ...

It isn't that the average working guy is dumb. He's tired, that's all. I picked up a book on chess one time. That thing laid in the drawer for two or three weeks, you're too tired. During the weekends you want to take your kids out. You don't want to sit there and the kid comes up: "Daddy, can I go to the park?" You got your nose in a book? Forget it.

I know a guy fifty-seven years old. Know what he tells me? "Mike, I'm old and tired all the time."

The first thing happens at work: when the arms start moving, the brain stops. I punch in about ten minutes to seven in the morning. I say hello to a couple of guys I like. I kid around with them. One guy says good morning to you and you say good morning. To another guy you say fuck you. The guy you say fuck you to is your friend. I put on my hard hat, change into my safety shoes, put on my safety glasses, go to the bonderizer. It's the thing I work on. They rake the metal, they wash it, they dip it in a paint solution, and we take it off. Put it on, take it off, put it on, take it off, put it on, take it off... I say hello to everybody but my boss. At seven it starts. My arms get tired about the first half-hour. After that, they don't get tired any more until maybe the last half-hour at the end of the day. I work from seven to three thirty. My arms are tired at seven thirty and they're tired at three o'clock. I hope to God I never get broke in, because I always want my arms to be tired at seven thirty and three o'clock. (Laughs.) 'Cause that's when I know that there's a beginning and there's an end. That I'm not brainwashed. In between, I don't even try to think.

If I were to put you in front of a dock and I pulled up a skid in front of you with fifty hundred-pound sacks of potatoes and there are fifty more skids just like it, and this is what you're gonna do all day, what would you think about--potatoes? Unless a guy's a nut, he never thinks about work or talks about it. Maybe about baseball or about getting drunk the other night or he got laid or he didn't get laid. I'd say one out of a hundred will actually get excited about work. ...

Oh yeah, I daydream. I fantasize about a sexy blonde in Miami who's got my union dues. (Laughs.) I think of the head of the union the way I think of the head of my company. Living it up. I think of February in Miami. Warm weather, a place to lay in.

When I hear a college kid say, "I'm oppressed," I don't believe him. You know what I'd like to do for one year? Live like a college kid. Just for one year. I'd love to. Wow! (Whispers) Wow! Sports car! Marijuana! (Laughs.) Wild, sexy broads. I'd love that, hell yes, I would.

Somebody has to do this work. If my kid ever goes to college, I just want him to have a little respect, to realize that his dad is one of those somebodies. ...

After work I usually stop off at a tavern. Cold beer. Cold beer right away. When I was single, I used to go into hillbilly bars, get in a lot of brawls. Just to explode. I got a thing on my arm here (indicates scar). I got slapped with a bicycle chain. Oh, wow! (Softly) Mmm. I'm getting older. (Laughs.) I don't explode as much. You might say I'm broken in. (Quickly) No, I'll never be broken in. (Sighs.) When you get a little older, you exchange the words. When you're younger, you exchange the blows.

When I get home, I argue with my wife a little bit. Turn on TV, get mad at the news. (Laughs.) I don't even watch the news that much. I watch Jackie Gleason. I look for any alternative to the ten o'clock news. I don't want to go to bed angry. Don't hit a man with anything heavy at five o'clock. He just can't be bothered. This is his time to relax. The heaviest thing he wants is what his wife has to tell him.

When I come home, know what I do for the first twenty minutes? Fake it. I put on a smile. I got a kid, three years old. Sometimes she says, "Daddy, where've you been?" I say, "Work." I could have told her I'd been in Disneyland. What's work to a three-year-old kid?

If I feel bad, I can't take it out on the kids. Kids are born innocent of everything but birth. You can't take it out on your wife either. This is why you go to a tavern. You want to release it there rather than do it at home. What does an actor do when he's got a bad movie? I got a bad movie every day.

I don't even need the alarm clock to get up in the morning. I can go out drinking all night, fall asleep at four, and bam!--I'm up at six-no matter what I do. (Laughs.) It's a pseudo-death, more or less. Your whole system is paralyzed and you give all the appearance of death. It's an ingrown clock. It's a thing you just get used to. ...

[On weekends I] drink beer, read a book. See that one? Violence in America. It's one of them studies from Washington. One of them committees they're always appointing. A thing like that I read on a weekend. ... I don't do that much reading from Monday through Friday. Unless it's a horny book. I'll read it at work and go home and do my home work. (Laughs.) That's what the guys at the plant call it-homework. (Laughs.) Sometimes my wife works on Saturday and I drink beer at the tavern.

I went out drinking with one guy, oh, a long time ago. A college boy. He was working where I work now. Always preaching to me about how you need violence to change the system and all that garbage. We went into a hillbilly joint. Some guy there, I didn't know him from Adam, he said, "You think you're smart." I said, "What's your pleasure?" (Laughs.) He said, "My pleasure's to kick your ass." I told him I really can't be bothered. He said, "What're you, chicken?" I said, "No, I just don't want to be bothered." He came over and said something to me again. I said, "I don't beat women, drunks, or fools. Now leave me alone." The guy called his brother over. This college boy that was with me, he came nudging my arm, "Mike, let's get out of here." I said, "What are you worried about?" (Laughs.) This isn't unusual. People will bug you. You fend it off as much as you can with your mouth and when you can't, you punch the guy out. It was close to closing time and we stayed. We could have left, but when you go into a place to have a beer and a guy challenges you-if you expect to go in that place again, you don't leave. If you have to fight the guy, you fight. I got just outside the door and one of these guys jumped on me and grabbed me around the neck. I grabbed his arm and flung him against the wall. I grabbed him here (indicates throat), and jiggled his head against the wall quite a few times. He kind of slid down a little bit. This guy who said he was his brother took a swing at me with a garrison belt. He just missed and hit the wall. I'm looking around for my junior Stalin (laughs), who loves violence and everything. He's gone. Split. (Laughs.) Next day I see him at work. I couldn't get mad at him, he's a baby.

He saw a book in my back pocket one time and he was amazed. He walked up to me and he said, "You read?" I said, "What do you mean, I read?" He said, "All these dummies read the sports pages around here. What are you doing with a book?" I got pissed off at the kid right away. I said, "What do you mean, all these dummies? Don't knock a man who's paying somebody else's way through college." He was a nineteen-year-old effete snob. ...

[I want my kids to be an effete snob.] I want my kid to look at me and say, "Dad, you're a nice guy, but you're a fuckin' dummy." Hell yes, I want my kid to tell me that he's not gonna be like me. ...

If I were hiring people to work, I'd try naturally to pay them a decent wage. I'd try to find out their first names, their last names, keep the company as small as possible, so I could personalize the whole thing. All I would ask a man is a handshake, see you in the morning. No applications, nothing. I wouldn't be interested in the guy's past. ...

I'd like to run a combination bookstore and tavern. (Laughs.) I would like to have a place where college kids came and a steelworker could sit down and talk. Where a workingman could not be ashamed of Walt Whitman and where a college professor could not be ashamed that he painted his house over the weekend.

If a carpenter built a cabin for poets, I think the least the poets owe the carpenter is just three or four one-liners on the wall. A little plaque: "Though we labor with our minds, this place we can relax in was built by someone who can work with his hands. And his work is as noble as ours." I think the poet owes something to the guy who builds the cabin for him.

I don't think of Monday. You know what I'm thinking about on Sunday night? Next Sunday. If you work real hard, you think of a perpetual vacation. Not perpetual sleep. ... What do I think of on a Sunday night? Lord. I wish the fuck I could do something else for a living.

... Michelangelo's Sistine Chapel. It took him a long time to do this, this beautiful work of art. But what if he had to create this Sistine Chapel a thousand times a year? Don't you think that would even dull Michelangelo's mind? Or if Da Vinci had to draw his anatomical charts thirty, forty, fifty, sixty, eighty, ninety, a hundred times a day? Don't you think that would even bore Da Vinci?

[Interview's Question: Way back, you spoke of the guys who built the pyramids, not the pharaohs, the unknowns. You put yourself in their category?] Yes. I want my signature on 'em, too. Sometimes, out of pure meanness, when I make something, I put a little dent in it. I like to do something to make it really unique. Hit it with a hammer. I deliberately fuck it up to see if it'll get by, just so I can say I did it. It could be anything. ... I'd like to make my imprint. My dodo bird. A mistake, mine. Let's say the whole building is nothing but red bricks. I'd like to have just the black one or the white one or the purple one. Deliberately fuck up.

This is gonna sound square, but my kid is my imprint. He's my freedom. There's a line in one of Hemingway's books. I think it's from For Whom the Bell Tolls. They're behind the enemy lines, somewhere in Spain, and she's pregnant. She wants to stay with him. He tells her no. He says, "if you die, I die," knowing he's gonna die. But if you go, I go. Know what I mean? The mystics call it the brass bowl. Continuum. You know what I mean? This is why I work. Every time I see a young guy walk by with a shirt and tie and dressed up real sharp, I'm lookin' at my kid, you know? That's it.

Li Chi (Record of the Ritual) Quotes

They love others, and yet acknowledge the evil that is in them. 1:1:1:[4]:3

Tulku Lobsang Quotes

In your normal life you have too much "I"--that is your problem. Then you practice the spiritual path and you try to make less "I", then you have your own life and you have a spiritual life. Many people practice the spiritual path and they create more "I". They do not realize the root of the problem.

Who does not allow you to become a spiritual person? Nobody, only your "I". That means always, any moment, any time you practice no matter what you practice on the spiritual path, when you feel more "I" then you need to realize this is not the right way of the practice.

Who can make less "I"? You can, nobody but you can.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Quotes

(1807-1882) poet

If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we shall find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.

We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while other judge us by what we have already done.

Macedonian Proverbs

If my neighbor is happy, my own work will go easier, too.

Maga Quotes

The dread of ridicule extinguishes originality in its birth.

There are subjects upon which we cannot reason, we can only feel.

Malaysian Proverbs

No matter how big the whale is, a tiny harpoon can kill him.

Mali Proverbs

If the rabbit is your enemy, admit he can sprint fast.

Nelson Mandela Quotes

(1918-) South African leader and civil rights advocate

To be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.

Orison Swett Marden Quotes

(1850-1924) writer

[W]e expect too much from the great happenings, the unusual things, and we overlook the common flowers on the path of life, from which we might abstract sweets, comforts, delights. ... Real happiness is so simple that most people do not recognize it. It is derived from the simplest, the quietest, the most unpretentious things in the world. (The Joys of Living)

Do you know that nothing is more demoralizing to the life, weakening to the character, than to be constantly wishing and dreaming of the great things we are going to do without a corresponding effort to actualize our dreams? Wishing without a corresponding effort to realize degenerates the mind, destroys initiative. (Ambition)

Everywhere we see people starving for love, famishing for affection, for someone to appreciate them.

On every hand we see men and women possessing material comfort, luxury, all that can contribute to their physical well-being—who are able to gratify almost any wish—and yet they are hungry for love. ( Be Good to Yourself)

Not long ago a young man whom I had not seen for several years called on me, and I was amazed at the tremendous change in him. When I had last seen him he was pessimistic, discouraged, almost despairing; he had soured on life, lost confidence in human nature and in himself. During the interval he had completely changed. The sullen, bitter expression that used to characterize his face was replaced by one of joy and gladness. He was radiant, cheerful, hopeful and happy.

The young man had married an optimistic wife, who had the happy faculty of laughing him out of his “blues” or melancholy, changing the tenor of his thoughts, cheering him up, and making him put a higher estimate on himself. His removal from an unhappy environment, together with his wife’s helpful, “new thought” influence and his own determination to make good, had all worked together to bring about a revolution in his mental make-up. The love-principle and the use of the right thought-force and had verily made a new man of him. (Peace, Power, and Plenty)

Orison Swett Marden Biography and Quotes

Mencius Quotes

When Shun was living amid the deep retired mountains, dwelling with the trees and rocks, and wandering among the deer and swine, the difference between him and the savages of those remote hills appeared very small. But when he heard a single good word, or saw a single good action, he was like the bursting torrent of the Yang Tzu or Yellow River, which flows out in flood and cannot be restrained. 7:1:16

Shun regarded virtue as the common property of himself and others, delighting to make the virtue of others his own. While he was a farmer, a potter, a fisherman, and then Emperor, he was continually learning from others. Taking an example from others to practice virtue—this is helping them in the same practice. Thus, there is no attribute in the superior person greater than his helping people practice virtue.

Only when someone doesn't do [certain] things will he be capable of [properly] doing [great] things.

Friendship should disregard a person’s age, station, and relatives. Friendship with someone is friendship with his qualities only. Meng Hsien Tzu was a a high ranking person and had five friends... They maintained a friendship as if he didn't possess that rank. If his rank had been taken into consideration, they wouldn't have [truly] been friends.

Though the Way lies in what is near, people seek for it [in what is distant]. 4:1:11

Goodness (jen) overcomes non-goodness just as water overcomes fire. But nowadays, people practice goodness as if a cup of water can put out a wagonload of burning wood--and when the flames aren't extinguished, they say that water can't overcome fire. This greatly encourages those who are not good, and ultimately leads to a loss of goodness. 6:1:18

The prince of Lu wanted to make Yo Chang Tzu his governor. Mencius said, “When I heard of it, I was so glad that I couldn't sleep.” Kung Sun Ch’au said, “Is Yo Chang magnanimous/vigor/valiant/strong-character?” “No.” “Is he wise/deep in council/thoughtful?” “No.” “Is he possessed of much/extensive/wide information/learning?” “No.” “What then made you so glad that you could not sleep?” “He is a person who loves what is good.” 6:2:13

Most people won't really [be inspired] and exert themselves unless they have a [positive example with high status, like King] Wen. But true aspirants will put forth their strength and exert themselves even if there is no Wen. 7:1:10

To nourish the mind/heart, nothing is better than restricting desires [to the essentials]. With restricted desires, we can attend to most things [we want]; with unrestricted desires, we can attend to few things [we want]. 7:2:35

Metastasio (Pietro Trapassi / Antonio Domenico Bonaventura Trapassi Pietro) Quotes

(1698-1782) poet

If our inward griefs were seen written on our brow, how many would be pitied who are now envied! / If the internal griefs of every man could be read, written on his forehead, how many who now excite envy would appear to be the objects of pity? (Giuseppe Riconosciuto)

Klemens (Wenzel Nepomuk Lothar Furst) von Metternich(-Winneberg-Beilstein) Quotes

(1773-1859) Austrian statesman

In my whole life I have only known ten or twelve persons with whom it was pleasant to speak—i.e., who keep to the subject, do not repeat themselves, and do not talk of themselves; men who do not listen to their own voice, who are cultivated enough not to lose themselves in commonplaces, and, lastly, who possess tact and good taste enough not to elevate their own persons above their subjects.

Mexican Proverbs

He who speaks too much is tiresome; he who speaks too little is boring.

If you don’t honor your wife, you are dishonoring yourself.

Mexican Proverbs

Michelangelo Quotes

(1475-1564) artist, architect, and poet

In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it. *

If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem wonderful at all.

Tokuchika Miki Quotes

God gives man 100% grace and blessing when he sheds his ego. You, not God, begin the process. Shed your ego and you receive grace. Make room for fulfillment, and you will be fulfilled.

Effacement of ego means “One with God.”

It is very well to say that everything that happens to us is destiny; but man also has free will. He uses this free will and wisdom to figure out things. Then adding form and creativity to his decisions, he performs a work of art. Only in this way can a human being feel happy and fulfilled.

Your natural self-expression cannot be selfish if you have a clear understanding of your relative position with your fellowman, society, God, and the Divine Universal Plan. Life is Art. Man’s life is a struggle to overcome his limitations. Art is not an escape. It is a constructive and positive step forward.

When we say that “Life is Art,” we mean that each individual should express his unique personality given by God, but always in relationship to the Divine Plan, and always in reference to the Great Peace. This is true makoto. This is makoto unlimited for world peace. At that point where individual, home, group, race, nation, all express rightly their unique character, there lies the way to world understanding.

It is necessary to use emotion to develop a finer emotion—that is, to use it as material for your highest expression. Govern your emotion. Do not let your emotion govern you. Make your emotion into an art.

Man has emotions, and the change of his emotions affects his life. One’s emotional life must be controlled first of all. Unbalanced conditions of emotions result in unforeseen accidents, physical illness, family troubles, and general unhappiness. …Man can control his destiny by the proper control of emotion.

Approach your situations without preconceptions. There is no true joy of creation when we simply stereotype a former action. There is joy of life when we are inspired to add a new creative touch and do things differently.

When an expression has individuality it has value. When it has not, it has no value worthy of art. Art remains uncreated if we only feel it in our hearts or hold it in imagination. Nothing can be art until it is expressed.

We live together with many people, and we owe much to people everywhere. The clothes we wear, the food we eat, and even the thoughts we think—it is surprising how much we owe to others! Yet the real meaning behind our saying that “human life is relative” is that each man should aim at self-expression on his highest level. He should aspire to such self-expression as no one else has ever attained.

John Stuart Mill Quotes

(1806-1873) philosopher and economist

Those only are happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness; on the happiness of others, on the improvement of mankind, even on some art or pursuit, followed not as a means, but as itself an ideal end.

J. Pierpoint Morgan Quotes

A man generally has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good, and a real one.

Akio Morita Quotes

Our plan is to lead the public with new products rather than ask them what kind of products they want. The public does not know what is possible, but we do.

Jim Nelson Quotes

(1963-) editor-in-chief of the magazine GQ

The job of [sitcom] writer's assistant is whatever the writers deem it to be. Writers, you know, are a terrifically creative bunch; they like to sit around all day thinking of new ways to employ their assistants. This often involves dogs, or any other pets the writers might have.

Take Digger, whom I have come to know through a series of rigorous walks. Indeed I have, upon instruction and in the middle of a busy workday, driven 4.8 miles to my boss's Hollywood Hills home to unlock the door, fetch the leash, and let Digger take his airs. ...

You would not call [my boss] M— a “people person.” He is acerbic, career-drunk, moving toward midlife friendlessness. Digger was his only steadfast pal. “Dogs don't fuck you over,” he once bellowed at me... When he asked if I was coming to the funeral, I took it as: “Mourn with me—or else.” ...

I share my office space with a group of writer's assistants, all of whom are connected to their superiors by the same buzzing [intercom] system, all of whom fear their bosses, resent their bosses' success, and yet crave their bosses' sweet-ass jobs. ...

The reception area serves as a hangout for various Columbia secretaries, messengers, and mailroom guys and as a kind of chamber for our constant grievances. The most bitter among us is Kent, who at night performs as the drag queen Jackie Beat, a beat poetess with a vicious tongue. In truth, the line between Kent, the disgruntled office worker, and Jackie Beat, the disgruntled drag queen, is fading daily. Once, early on, feeling momentarily comfortable around the group, I'd mentioned that I'd just moved here and told some brief anecdote about growing up in the D.C. suburbs. When I finished, Kent glowered at me. “What makes you think any of us could possibly give a shit about that little story of yours?”>

“It's just a story,” I stammered.

“I think you need to think long and hard about what's a story—and what isn't,” he snipped.

I shut up for two months.

... The assistants around me are all wildly talented people who know they need to suppress any sign of creativity, lest it threaten their bosses or get in the way of answering phone calls. ...

Across the hall, through the glass door of the reception room, I can see my bosses laughing hysterically in their office. ... They crack each other up. This is what they are each paid hundreds of thousands of dollars a year to do. ...

[They] worked on a show called The New Leave It to Beaver. ... My bosses act as if the Beaver reboot were the modern comedy equivalent of Monty Python, as if everyone in Hollywood were hyper-aware of the brilliant Eddie Haskell subplots they wrote. ...

At my interview, they flat out informed me that they were “hilarious,” a cut above most clowns. “Not like these fucking idiots in Hollywood.” I laughed at their audacity. They laughed at my laughing—the whole interview was like a coke party. They told me they would storm Hollywood and, if I went along, I could sort of storm it, too. It sounded like a great idea, and also I was broke. ...

My job is to serve them and, more important, to humor them. I am regularly summoned into their office to witness the sparks of their genius, to hear a few bits of schlocky humor that, for the well-being of my job, I had better find uproarious. ...

M— and L— seem mismatched as a comic team. They're both type A personalities, with no foil, no straight man. Like the worst kind of Funny Guys, they are always, oppressively, “on.” Every time they see you, they do not merely crack a joke; they molest you with comedy. Their assaults are rapid-fire, cringe-inducing, often offensive. (“Nice jacket, Jim. What, did you buy it from a sand nigger in Morocco?” Grunt.) ...

It is 1990, and The Plan is going as planned, sort of. I have graduated from development and am now a writer's assistant on M— and L—'s NBC series, Ferris Bueller. I am the Taker of All Notes, the Keeper of Comedy. I “do table,” which means I sit at a long conference table with the writers as they try to punch up a script. I jot down what they say, spitting it back to them on demand. ...

Here, the writers expect me not only to read back their jokes but to somehow embellish them, to deliver them with feeling and perfect timing. Because if I read back a line and it sounds lame, the writer might accuse me of killing his joke. It happens like this:

WRITERS: [speaking all at once] Blah blah blah and then he says blah blah and then she says blah blah no no because she has car troubles blah blah your mother names her car?

WRITER #1: That was good. What did I say?

ME: Um, you said, “ ‘My mother's car is a Lexus.’ ‘Your mother names her car?’”

WRITER #1: That's not what I said! Jesus Christ! I said, “ ‘My mother's car is a Lexus.’ ‘Your mother names her car?’”

ME: That's brilliant. ...

Ferris Bueller dies an untimely death. NBC kills it after just thirteen episodes. ...

I soon find work as a writer's assistant on other sitcoms. With nice bosses! ... The one complicating factor: Every show I work on is instantly canceled.

Isaac Newton Quotes

If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been due to patient attention more than to any other talent.

I do not know what I may appear to the world, but to myself I seem to have been only like a boy playing on the seashore, and diverting myself in now and then finding a smooth pebble, or a prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me.

Isaac Newton Biography

Nigerian Proverbs

Being happy in one’s home is better than being a chief.

It takes a whole village to raise a child. (Yoruba)

Omaha Proverbs

Ask questions from your heart, and you'll receive answers from your heart.

It is easy to show braveness from a safe distance.

George Orwell Quotes

At any given moment there is an orthodoxy, a body of ideas of which it is assumed that all right-thinking people will accept without question. It is not exactly forbidden to say this, that or the other, but it is “not done” to say it... Anyone who challenges the prevailing orthodoxy finds himself silenced with surprising effectiveness. A genuinely unfashionable opinion is almost never given a fair hearing, either in the popular press or in the high-brow periodicals.

Joel Osteen Quotes

I know this lady. Her husband doesn't come to church with her. There are a lot of issues in her home she's been dealing with. For years she used to come down front for prayer. She had this list of all the things she wanted God to fix. And she didn't think she could be happy unless they all turned around. The main thing was her husband.

I saw her recently and she was just beaming with joy. She was more beautiful and more at peace than I had ever seen her before. And I thought surely everything must have worked out. But she said, "No, Joel. My husband is just the same. Still got a lot of issues. He hasn't changed. But you know what? I have changed. I don't let that frustrate me anymore. I don't let him keep me from enjoying my life."

I saw an interesting statistic. It said 25% of the people you meet won’t like you and never will, 25% won’t like you but could be persuaded to, 25% will like you but could be persuaded not to, and 25% will like you and stand by you no matter what. ... Years ago, there was this couple that I knew. I really wanted to be their friend but they were not that friendly to me. They were cordial, they would say hello, but it seemed like there was always something keeping them from accepting and approving me. I just could not understand that. I went out of my way to win their approval. I introduced them to friends of mine. In fact, one of them led to them starting a business together. You’d think they’d be appreciative and at least be friendly. But still--nothing. Eventually they got transferred and relocated to another city and I found people to help them move, and even gave them a gift for their new home. But in spite of all I did, they would not give me the time of day. You know on top of them, a couple of years later, I got word that they were talking bad about me. They thought I’d not done enough, not treated them right and here there was nobody in the world that I’d done more for than that couple. I realize now that they are just one of the 25% that are never gonna like me.

Pancastikaya Quotes

Due to wrong faith, the attitude of a person becomes perverted. Religion is as unattractive to him as sweet juice to a person suffering from fever, for he cannot relish it. (1:6)

Faith, knowledge and conduct together constitute the path of liberation; this is the path to be followed. The saints have declared that if it is followed in the right way, it will lead to the liberation; otherwise, it will lead to the bondage. (16:4 or 164) *

St. Paul Quotes

We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; (II Corinthians 4:8-9)

And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; and that you put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. (Ephesians 4:23-24)

I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness… (II Timothy 4:7-8)

Cesare Pavese Quotes

(1908-1950) writer

We do not remember days; we remember moments.

Perfect Liberty Kyodan Precepts

Life is art. Man’s life is a succession of self-expressions. ... Man suffers if he fails to express himself.

Man is a manifestation of God.

Man’s true self is revealed when his ego is effaced.

All things exist in mutual relation to one another.

Strive for creating mutual happiness.

Live [as] radiantly as the sun.

Grasp the heart of everything.

At every moment, man stands at the crossroads of good and evil.

Attain the perfect harmonious state of mind and matter.

Perfect Liberty Kyodan Youth Creed

I live for the joy of an artistic life. I pray for the happiness of others. I live with true effort and sincerity. I maintain the highest dignity and honour.

Phaedrus Quotes


The tinsel, glitter, and the specious mien / Delude the most; few pry behind the scene.

The mind ought sometimes to be diverted, that it may return the better to thinking.

Philippine / Filipino / Tagalog Proverbs

No matter how much care is taken, someone will always be misled.

The child who is given everything he asks for usually won’t succeed in life.

Ted Pollock Quotes

One of the few men able to influence President Woodrow Wilson was Colonel Edward House. Why? Because early in their relationship, House discovered that Wilson could not stand being told what to do by anyone. Somewhat childishly, the President was incapable of admitting that his knowledge of any subject was insufficient or limited. ...Colonel House was keen enough to recognize President Wilson’s "self-image," that of a totally self-sufficient, completely knowledgeable man, and then use it when he thought it necessary. To some extent, each of us entertains a somewhat distorted notion of the kind of person he is, and this self-image is a reliable clue to our character. Learn what a person's self-image is, how he sees himself, and you have one important key to what makes him tick. ... One man ... may picture himself as the epitome of all the major virtues, a born leader, better than most people. Another may view himself as possessed of a keen analytical mind, unswayed by emotional considerations. A third may entertain an image of himself as a great innovator and idea man. ... Put what you want done in terms of each individual's self-image.

People tend to become rigid in their thinking, to see things in one way and one way only. The person used to judging the value of a product according to its price is apt to use price as the frame of reference for all other products. The person to whom efficiency of operation is most important will consider efficiency the sole touchstone of value for other products. Another may consider durability the ultimate test of value. If the salesman can introduce another consideration, however, thereby altering the prospect’s frame of reference, he may break through this resistance to change. By calling attention to other things, he enlarges—or shifts—the criteria by which the product is judged.

When someone comes to you with a complaint, it probably represents weeks, even months, of gnawing doubt, discomfort and anxiety. Resist the temptation to belittle it, no matter how baseless it may be. Remember that, as a supervisor, you enjoy a larger view of things—a view that permits you to see events in a larger context with more perspective. Lacking this wider view, the employee may very well be suffering from tunnel vision, but it isn’t his fault. It is woven into the very fabric of the company structure. In short, be understanding. This becomes particularly important when you consider that a person with a gripe is in no mood to be reasonable. Not at first. Above all, he craves an audience, someone to whom he can pour out his tale of woe. Therefore, the smart supervisor makes it a point, at the very first hint of trouble, to establish communications with the dissatisfied employee.

Big conflicts seldom materialize out of thin air. They are usually preceded by minor skirmishes and other warning signals. If you take the trouble to keep your fingers on your people’s pulse—what’s pleasing them, what’s eating at them—you can usually spot a battle in the making and take appropriate action before it’s too late.

Portuguese (Portugal) Proverbs

He who is well prepared has already won half of the battle.

Not much can be done when everyone is giving orders.

Jerry Reisman Quotes


Everyone was in awe of him. [Bernie] Madoff made it feel as if it [his investment fund] was an exclusive club, and that's how he sucked his people in. That's how he got them to go into this. And it was a fantastic, brilliant job of marketing.

John D. Rockefeller Quotes

(1839-1937) industrialist, philanthropist

The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee…and I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.

Carl Rogers Quotes

(1902-1987) psychologist known for promoting a client/patient focused approach

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.

Roma / Rom / Gypsy Proverbs

The journey is just as important as the destination.

We are all wanders of this earth; our hearts are full of wonder and our souls are full of dreams.

Romanian Proverbs

Chooses a wife to please yourself, not others.

The eyes have one language everywhere.

Better late than never.

After the war, many heroes present themselves.

The blessing of having many children has never broken a man’s roof.

David Ross Quotes

What matters to most of those collectors is winning. When art becomes a competitive sport, all it takes to win is the guts and the money to go further than anyone else, and then, voila, you win. And winning feels really good. ... We're living in a world of funny money. And money is not really a measure of anything anymore because... it's thrown around in such unpredictable ways.

Babe Ruth Quotes

(1895-1948) baseball player

What do I think about when I strike out? I think about hitting home runs.

Babe Ruth Biography and Quotes

Rwandan Proverbs

In the birds’ court, a cockroach never wins his case. [People have a strong tendency to favor others from their own group.]

Jay Sankey

The difference between wit that gets belly laughs and wit that gets bored silence is not only a matter of the style the material is both written and delivered in, but also a matter of the degree to which the audience cares about the subject.

Sanskrit Proverbs

You can’t cook one half of a chicken and expect the other half to lay eggs. [When people are choosing between A and B, they sometimes falsely think they can get the advantages of both options.]

Arthur Schopenhauer Quotes

(1788-1860) philosopher

It is a clear gain to sacrifice pleasure in order to avoid pain.

The deep grief we feel at the loss of a friend arises from the feeling that in every individual there is something which no words can express, something which is peculiarly his own and therefore irreparable.

And again, as regards space, small objects close to us look big, and if they are very close, we may be able to see nothing else, but when we go a little way off, they become minute and invisible. It is the same again as regards time. The little incidents and accidents of every day fill us with emotion, anxiety, annoyance, passion, as long as they are close to us, when they appear so big, so important, so serious; but as soon as they are borne down the restless stream of time, they lose what significance they had; we think no more of them and soon forget them altogether. They were big only because they were near.

…A man should never let himself be mastered by the impressions of the moment, or indeed by outward appearances at all, which are incomparably more powerful in their effects than the mere play of thought or a train of ideas; not because these momentary impressions are rich in virtue of the data they supply,—it is often just the contrary,—but because they are something palpable to the senses and direct in their working; they forcibly invade our mind, disturbing our repose and shattering our resolutions.

It is easy to understand that the thing that lies before our very eyes will produce the whole of its effect at once, but that time and leisure are necessary for the working of thought and the appreciation of argument, as it is impossible to think of everything at one and the same moment.

Those present moments that are bearable, be they never so trite and common,—passed by in indifference, or, it may be, impatiently pushed away,—those are the moments we should honor; never failing to remember that the ebbing tide is even how hurrying them into the past, where memory will store them transfigured and shining with an imperishable light,—in some after-time, and above all, when our days are evil, to raise the veil and present them as the object of our fondest regret.

Men are like children, in that, if you spoil them, they become naughty. Therefore it is well not to be too indulgent or charitable with anyone.

Charles M. Schwab Quotes

(1862-1939) steel executive

That’s the way character is formed—doing callisthenic feats with obstacles and adversities. I tell you the hard knocks are the nest eggs of our fortunes. The men that are not made of the right stuff go under with them and are never heard of again.

And there are the others who are soured and embittered by them, and they’re heard from eternally. They haven’t a good word to say for the world’s plan, because when it got a trifle complicated it baffled them.

Those are the men who do more harm to the youth of civilization than its vices. Then there are those who start out, sometimes with bare feet and holes in their trousers, bravely resolving never to let circumstances crush them, never to harbor bitterness over defeat, but to save their energies for the next encounter.

These are the men hard knocks don’t hurt. They toughen them; they help them get ready for the next encounter. To these men, it’s only a question of sufficient hardship, and sacrifice, and battle, to make them proof against any onslaught. These are the soldiers, the victors.

Did you ever find a successful soldier who hadn’t seen a fight?

Walter Scott Quotes

[After someone said that people's literary talents and accomplishments should be esteemed and honored most:] God help us! what a poor world this would be if that were the true doctrine! I have read books enough, and observed and conversed with enough of eminent and splendidly-cultured minds, too, in my time; but I assure you, I have heard higher sentiments from the lips of poor UNEDUCATED men and women, when exerting the spirit of severe yet gentle heroism under difficulties and afflictions, or speaking their simple thoughts as to circumstances in the lot of friends and neighbours, than I ever yet met with out of the Bible. We shall never learn to feel and respect our real calling and destiny, unless we have taught ourselves to consider everything as moonshine, compared with the education of the heart.

Seneca Quotes

playwright, philosopher, and statesmen

I will govern my life and thoughts as if the whole world were to see the one and read the other; for what is the significance of keeping something a secret to my neighbor, when all our privacies are open to God (the searcher of our hearts)?

It was the wisdom of ancient times to consider what is most useful as most illustrious.

Joaquin Setanti Quotes

Be wary of the man who urges an action in which he himself incurs no risk.

Al Sharpton Quotes

I’m rough on them [the candidates on the show I Hate My Job] because life is rough. You should not assume that just because you have a dream, the whole world is going to fold to your dream.

Shinto Teachings

Makoto is the single virtue that binds the divine and man in one. (Jingishoju)

If you pray to a deity with makoto, you will surely feel the divine presence.

A single prayer of makoto moves Heaven. You will surely realize the divine presence through makoto prayer.

Even in one single leaf on a tree, or in one blade of grass, the awesome Deity presents itself.

Our eyes might see un-cleanliness, but let not our minds see un-cleanliness. Our ears might hear un-cleanliness, but let not our minds hear un-cleanliness.

Upton Sinclair Quotes

It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary is dependent upon him not understanding it.

Samuel Smiles Quotes

(1812-1904) writer and philosopher

When Dr. Abbot, afterwards Archbishop of Canterbury, drew the character of his deceased friend Thomas Sackville, he did not dwell upon his merits as a statesman, or his genius as a poet, but upon his virtues as a man in relation to the ordinary duties of life. “How many rare things were in him!” said he. “Who more loving unto his wife? Who more kind unto his children?—Who more fast unto his friend?—Who more moderate unto his enemy?—Who more true to his word?” Indeed, we can always better understand and appreciate a man’s real character by the manner in which he conducts himself towards those who are the most nearly related to him, and by his transaction of the seemingly commonplace details of daily duty, than by his public exhibition of himself as an author, an orator, or a statesman.

Newton’s was unquestionably a mind of the very highest order, and yet, when asked by what means he had worked out his extraordinary discoveries, he modestly answered, “By always thinking unto them.” At another time he thus expressed his method of study: “I keep the subject continually before me, and wait till the first dawnings open slowly by little and little into a full and clear light.”

It was in Newton’s case, as in every other, only by diligent application and perseverance that his great reputation was achieved. Even his recreation consisted in change of study, laying down one subject to take up another. To Dr. Bentley he said: “If I have done the public any service, it is due to nothing but industry and patient thought.”

A strong temper is not necessarily a bad temper. But the stronger the temper, the greater is the need of self-discipline and self-control.

Samuel Smiles Quotes

Emmitt Smith Quotes

(1969-) Record setting NFL running back

Winning is something that builds physically and mentally every day that you train and every night that you dream.

Spanish Proverbs

Buy from people who are desperate, and sell to newlyweds.

Every person is a fool in some person’s opinion.

Talking about bulls is not the same thing as being in the bullring.

Charles Spurgeon Quotes

(1834-1892) Christian preacher

With children we must mix gentleness with firmness. They must not always have their own way, but they must not always be thwarted.

Sylvester Stallone Quotes

If you’re gonna be a failure, at least be one at something you enjoy

Richard Steele Quotes

(1672-1729) Irish politician and writer

It is a Secret known but to few, yet of no small use in the Conduct of Life, that when you fall into a Man's Conversation, the first thing you should consider is, whether he has a greater Inclination to hear you, or that you should hear him. The latter is the more general Desire, and I know very able Flatterers that never speak a Word in Praise of the Persons from whom they obtain daily Favours, but still practise a skilful Attention to whatever is uttered by those with whom they converse. (Spectator 49)

Robert Louis Stevenson Quotes

There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.

Sun Tzu Quotes

The Art of War

Attack him where he is unprepared; appear where you are not expected.

Do not repeat tactics just because they have gained you one victory. Instead, let your methods be regulated by the infinite variety of circumstances. Military tactics are like unto water; for water in its natural course runs away from high places and hastens downwards. So in war, the Way is to avoid what is strong and to strike at what is weak. Water shapes its course according to the nature of the ground over which it flows; the soldier works out his victory in relation to the foe that he is facing.

The art of war teaches us to rely not on the likelihood of the enemy’s not coming, but on our own readiness to receive him; not on the chance of his not attacking, but rather on the fact that we have made our position unassailable.

If soldiers are punished before they have grown attached to you, they will not prove submissive; and, unless submissive, then will be practically useless. If, when the soldiers have become attached to you, punishments are not enforced, they will still be useless. Therefore, soldiers must be treated in the first instance with humanity, but kept under control by means of iron discipline. This is a certain road to victory. (9:42-43)

Regard your soldiers as your children, and they will follow you into the deepest valleys. Look upon them as your own beloved sons, and they will stand by you even unto death. If, however, you are lenient, but unable to make your authority felt; kind-hearted, but unable to enforce your commands; and incapable, moreover, of quelling disorder; then your soldiers must be likened to spoilt children—they are useless for any practical purpose. (10:25-26)

Carefully study the well-being of your men, and do not overtax them. Concentrate your energy and hoard your strength…

When the general is weak and without authority; when his orders are not clear and distinct; when there are no fixed duties assigned to officers and men, and the ranks are formed in a slovenly haphazard manner, the result is utter disorganization. (10:18)

Cass R. Sunstein Quotes

(1954-) legal scholar, Administrator of the White House Office of Information and Regulatory Affairs

People are certainly not sheep. Many of us display a great deal of independence. But most human beings, including many apparent rebels, are strongly influenced by the views and actions of others.

Much of the time, groups of people end up thinking and doing things that group members would never think or do on their own.

When people find themselves in groups of like-minded types, they are especially likely to move to extremes. ... Like-minded people tend to move to a more extreme version of what they thought before they started to talk. ...A good way to create an extremist group, or a cult of any kind, is to separate members from the rest of society. This separation can occur physically or psychologically, by creating a sense of suspicion about nonmembers.

Extremists and hate-filled [web]sites tend to attract likeminded people who, if isolated, could come to their senses.

[T]here's a little Homer Simpson in all of us. Sometimes we have self-control problems, sometimes we're impulsive... Once we know that people are human and have some Homer Simpson in them, then there's a lot that can be done to manipulate them.

Sutrakritanga Sutra Quotes

Putting aside all undertakings, he [a monk] should wander about for the welfare of his soul.

He should know that the present time is the best opportunity to mend, and that awakening is difficult to obtain. A wise man should be aware of this.

But those who exert themselves at the proper time, feel no remorse afterwards.

Swiss Proverbs

Sometimes you must be silent in order to be heard

Publilius Syrus Quotes

(1st century BC) writer

The happy man is not he who seems so to others, but he who seems so to himself.

A plan is bad if it is not capable of being changed.

Taiwanese Proverbs

It takes sweat to work, but only saliva to criticize.

A husband and wife often fight intensely at one moment, and then kiss intensely at the next moment.

A beautiful person might not have a beautiful life.

Some prefer liquor, others prefer tofu, and some even like rotten salmon.

Greed will cause pain.

St. Teresa of Avila Quotes

(1515-1582) nun, writer, and mystic

Remember that you have only one soul; that you have only one death to die; that you have only one life. … If you do this, there will be many things about which you care nothing.

Paul Tournier Quotes

(1898-1986) doctor who developed a psychiatric method he termed “medicine of the person”

Most illnesses do not, as is generally thought, come like a bolt out of the blue. The ground is prepared for years through faulty diet, intemperance, overwork, and moral conflicts, slowly eroding the subject’s vitality.

Donald Trump Quotes

(1946-) Real estate mogul

Sometimes your best investments are the ones you don’t make.

Tunisian Proverbs

The enemy of your belly: 40 years. [If you take away someone's food or livlihood, he'll hold it against you for 40 years.]

By telling the truth, your head will be cracked.

If you see someone riding a bamboo-cane/log, tell him “What a lovely horse!” [Allow others to enjoy their own fantasies]

You hate me, but God will remember me.

He who builds a mill must also have a bell.

Better to wait patiently [for the real] than rush into a thing of illusion.

Though I am rich, I still enjoy receiving gifts.

Everyone lives—the person with one coat, the person with two, and even the person with none.

Turkish Proverbs

One eats while another watches—that is how revolutions are begun.

Mark Twain Quotes

(1835-1910) writer

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. (Notebook)

It must be that the increase [in lynching] comes of the inborn human instinct to imitate—that and man’s commonest weakness, his aversion to being unpleasantly conspicuous, pointed at, shunned, as being on the unpopular side. ...No revolt against a public infamy or oppression has ever been begun but by the one daring man in the 10,000, the rest timidly waiting, and slowly and reluctantly joining, under the influence of that man and his fellows from the other ten thousands. (“The United States of Lyncherdom”)

The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause. (Speeches)

That impressive silence, that eloquent silence, that geometrically progressive silence which often achieves a desired effect where no combination of words howsoever felicitous could accomplish it. (Autobiography)

Mark Twain Biography and Quotes

twistedcain Quotes

I have a long time friend who is always happy as a pig in shit. No matter what. He's my age, works for minimum wage, girlfriend left him, no kids, no prospects, no savings, lives with roommates and still struggles to get through the week. He seems to be enjoying life to the fullest.

I've been happily married for 15 years, live in a beautiful house, two great kids, easy job (working right now), and money isn't an issue for me. When I run into my friend, his only complaint is how much I complain about my life. He lives everyday to the fullest while I see everyday I don't have a major accomplishment as a wasted day that takes me one step closer to death. I have a hard time enjoying anything because I always feel like I should be doing something more productive with my time.

I've found a way to replicate how I imagine their brains must work. If I drink a lot of alcohol, I find that I no longer care about anything either and quit worrying. The effect is temporary and the regret I feel the next day for actually enjoying myself is brutal, but I find if I do this about once a week, preferably on a weekend, it's like going on a mini vacation from myself.

Mike Tyson Quotes

(1966-) heavyweight boxer

Everyone has a game plan until you get hit in the mouth.

Am I an animal? If necessary—it depends on what situation am I in…

Ugandan Proverbs

The hunter who is tracking an elephant does not stop to throw stones at birds.

The laughter of a child is the light of a house.

Uttaradhyayana Sutra Quotes

Like an untrained steed who needs a lash, seek not guidance again and again. Like the trained who sees the whip [and avoids danger/pitfall], avoid sin. 1:12<

Even so are human pleasures compared with the pleasures of the gods; divine life and pleasures surpass [the former] a thousand times and more. 7:12

What water is at the kusa grass tip, compared to an ocean deep, so are the pleasures of human life, compared to the life divine. 7:23<

Victory over one’s self is greater than conquering thousands and thousands of enemies on the battlefield. A true conqueror is he who conquers his own self. Fight the fight within—why fight external foes? He who conquers himself through himself obtains supreme joy. It is difficult to conquer oneself—but when that is conquered, everything is conquered. 9:34-36

Better is that I should subdue my Self by self-control and penance, than be subdued by others with fetters and corporal punishment. 1:16

There are four things of paramount value that are difficult to obtain here by a living being: human birth, instruction in the Law, belief/faith in it, and energy-in/the-endeavor-to-practice self-control. Having been born as a man, having heard the Religious Law, believing in it, and fulfilling it strenuously, an ascetic should restrain himself and shake of sinfulness / annihilate the karmas completely. 3:1, 3:11

The pious obtain purity, and the pure stand firmly in righteousness, reaching the highest nirvana/liberation like fire fed with ghee. 3:12

Though others sleep [i.e. are unvigilant], be awake [i.e. vigilant]! Like a wise man, trust nobody, but always be on the alert; for time is dangerous, and the body is weak. Be ever watchful, like the [two-headed] Bharunda bird. 4:6

Here some are of opinion that they will be delivered from all misery merely by attending the teacher without abstaining from sins/*learning what right conduct is without living up to it. Acknowledging the truth about bondage and liberation, but only talking and not acting, they seek comfort for themselves in mighty words. Clever talking will not work salvation; how should philosophical instruction do it? Fools, though sinking lower and lower through their sins, believe themselves to be wise men. They are [going] a long way in the endless samsara; therefore looking out carefully, one should wander about carefully [conducting oneself to commit no sin]. 6:8-11

It indeed is very difficult to acquire human birth. One acquires it after a very long span of time for the karmas that bind the soul are very powerful. Therefore Oh Gautama, be not careless even for a while! 10:4

Place your self on the right path … be careful all the while. 10:31

'If he does not get it [victory] early, he will get it afterwards'--such reasoning assumes the eternity of human life. But such a person will despair when his life draws to its close, and the dissolution of his body approaches. 4:9

The days and nights that pass will never return. They bear no fruit for him who does not abide by dharma. The days and nights that pass will never return. They bear fruit only for him who abides by dharma.

14:24-25 M

He who can call death his friend, who can escape from its clutches, and who is sure to never die—he only can decide to postpone his duties to tomorrow. 14:27

I have cut off all my fetters, these are destroyed by right means. Now I am wholly free from these, being light, I move and happily live. 23:41

The mind is that fierce/bad, unruly and dreadful horse that runs hither and thither in all directions. I control it by the discipline of righteousness, so that it becomes a well-trained kanthaka-steed [horse of the Buddha]. 23:58

Just as a threaded [sasutra] needle is secure from being lost, in the same way a person given to self-study [sasutra] cannot be lost. 29:59 M

David Venhuizen

All I would prescribe if I were a psychologist is seven years of chopping wood in Alaska.

Voltaire Quotes

(1694-1778) writer and philosopher

Every man is guilty of all the good he didn’t do.

I know of no great men except those who have rendered great service to the human race.

Voltaire Biography and Quotes

Wang Ji Wu Quotes

My thoughts are pure; in spirit I seek to forget myself and transcend the common affairs of the world, keeping my life simple and my desires few. With a clear heart, I do not contend with others or make demands upon the world, but rather seek to contribute what I can for the benefit of all, aiding those in need and protecting those in danger.

I have traveled the long road of life, experiencing hardship, difficulty, and I know the sentiment of man is often as thin as paper. I have seen corruption and those whose only concern is realizing their own desires. Because of this, I have striven even harder to live a practical life, willing to sacrifice even more for the good of the people. After the founding of the Republic [of China], I spent my time working in the streets as a doctor, treating anyone who came to me for help with wholehearted enthusiasm. When one finds happiness in serving others, one will be full of the spirit of life, seeing things as they are with a calm heart. Thus, one may reach the state where the spirit is preserved within, the body is healthy and the spirit full, the intellect wise, decisions made adroitly and reactions made spontaneously. Consequently, the life energy will be strengthened and increased while promoting the health and longevity of the body.

Wang Yang Ming Quotes

(1472-1529) Neo Confucian philosopher

A deluded person recites [philosophical texts]; a wise person puts his [pure] mind into practice.

Booker T. Washington Quotes

(1856-1915) leader, reformer, educator

Any man’s life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day.

Ewing T. Webb and John B. Morgan Quotes

Only by approaching people through their own point of view can we hope to control them.

Ordinarily it is not very difficult to find out what other people want and how they want it. All that is necessary, as a rule, is simply to keep our mind on the other fellow's problems instead of our own, to make a real business of studying his viewpoint.

Seldom is anything accomplished by forcing other people to admit that they are wrong.

Oprah Winfrey Quotes

(1954-) businesswomen, TV talk show host

If you live in the past and allow the past to define who you are, then you never grow. (Woman’s Day, October 1, 1986; Lyn Torrnabene)

Oprah Winfrey Biography and Quotes

Henry Winkler Quotes

(1945-) actor, producer

Assumptions are the termites of relationships.

Yang Chu Quotes

One hundred years is at the heights of a long life. Less than one in a thousand people attain it. Let's take an example [typical] of someone who does. Most of it is taken up by infancy and old age, sleep and wasted time, pain and sickness, sorrow and grief, ruin and loss, and anxieties and fears. This perhaps leaves several years—and of this, I reckon that the time he is truly content and liberated barely amounts to much at all.

So what is human existence for, and where is its joy? Only comfort/beauty/wealth and luxury? Only music/color and beauty/sound/senses/women? Ah, but we cannot always be satisfied by comfort/beauty and luxury, nor incessantly enjoy beauty/color and music/sound.

Besides, we're moved here and there by rewards, punishments, fame, and laws--and we busy ourselves competing for one vain moment of praise, and scheming for the glory that will remembered after our deaths, to the point where even when we're alone, we consider and go along with what we think others want us to see, hear, think, feel, and do, and we discredit what our own selves feel and think. Vainly missing the realest enjoyments of life’s time, we can't give way for a moment. How different is this from being a chained in prison?

The ancients knew that all creatures enter life in a moment, and must depart in death at one moment. Therefore they followed their hearts and did not deny themselves these natural inclinations. During life, they weren't seeking fame, but were only following their own nature. They went smoothly on their path unvaried from their inclinations. They didn't seek for posthumous fame. They were out of the reach of external disapproval, and were not concerned with glory, fame, rank, or position during their lifespan.

Rev. Koreaki Yano Quotes

[When asked whether he believed Heaven to be a location or a state of consciousness:] Who but God knows about these things? The thing we know is that we are living now. We know there are things to be done and that we are here to build a better world. This is a big enough assignment. Life is given by God so that we may create a better life for all.

Toshio Yasaka Quotes

Author of The Principles of Perfect Liberty: A System for an Artistic Life

Whenever a man says he is great, he is thinking of the past, and this is not good. A man should continue to express himself. The true Self exists moment by moment, and the challenge of PL is ever leading us forward to a more artistic life.

Perfect Liberty is a movement based on a system of individual self-expressions through an artistic life. Its beginning is the discovery of Self. Its assignment is the effacement of ego. Its challenge is to live the Precepts and Principles. Its ultimate aim is the Great Peace, a time when man will have learned to live harmoniously with himself, his fellowman, and God.

[T]he universe is One-whole-integrity. The nature of this integrity is God [kami]. The function of this integrated whole is God-in-action [kamuwaza].

You cannot at this instance write on a blackboard that exists in time twenty minutes from now. You cannot sit at a desk that existed yesterday and then lost its existence. In the same way, Self can only relate to other existences conterminous with the present.

Self is the subjective function, and is not able to place itself in the position of object. Self is the most exalted existence in the universe. Even the work of Kami is under its recognition. Because Self recognizes Kami, Kami exists. Self is Kami manifested. The only identity of Self exists in the process of expression. One should, therefore, identify oneself in all expressions. Expressions are possible only with the function of the related existences. So, once again, Self independent of the surrounding existences has no meaning. The idea of exclusiveness merely disturbs the effect of Self-expression in such a way as to cause a person to be obsessed with “I” and place his identity in an exaggerated position.

Yen Hui / Yen Tzu / Yen Yuan Quotes

disciple of Confucius

Yen Yuan sighed and said:

I look up to it, and find it high. I penetrate it, and it becomes firm. I look at it before me, and suddenly it is behind. Confucius skillfully leads people step-by-step. He enlarges me with wen, and teaches me restraints by li. I cannot stop, nor would I ever want to. And after having exerted my ability and finding it standing right up here, though I wish to follow, how can a find a way to do so? 9:10

Yiddish Proverbs

A penny saved is a penny earned, but sometimes a penny is better spent than saved.

When brains are needed, brawn won’t help.

Yoritomo Tashi Quotes

One must not forget the profound egotism that characterizes all imaginary invalids; they are so full of themselves that their ills seem to them to acquire high importance. They can not admit then that the whole world is not interested in their aches and pains, and the importance they themselves attach to them is a subject of development for their malady.

Intensity of determination, when it reaches a certain point, possesses a dazzling influence which few ordinary mortals can resist, for it envelops them before they are aware of it and thus before they have dreamt of endeavoring to withdraw themselves from it.

Moreover, the man who retains the power of influencing rarely needs to exert himself, in order to exercise it effectually, for the need of protection from it is non-existent in most persons.

They are rare who are morally sufficient for themselves and who pass through life without feeling the need of resting their weakness on a supporting and directing force.

Still less numerous are those who accept with courage the consequences of their acts and do not seek to place the responsibility for these acts on an outside influence, which, however, they are ready to repudiate if they are successful.

Influence over others is acquired especial by perseverance of the will and concentration of thought, the undulations of which, project around us, come to reach the minds that we wish to impress.

With perseverance, you succeed in causing effectively to penetrate the minds of your hearers the thoughts the emission of which will attract similar thoughts, and their undulations returning to affect you will increase your conviction, giving you thus the more power to spread it around you.

Edward Young Quotes

(1683-1765) poet, dramatist, and literary critic

I had looked for happiness in fast living, but it was not there. I tried to find it in money, but it was not there either. But when I placed myself in tune with what I believe to be the fundamental truths of life, when I began to develop my limited ability, to rid my mind of all kinds of tangled thoughts, and fill it with zeal and courage and love, when I gave myself a chance by treating myself decently and sensibly, I began to feel the stimulating, warm glow of happiness.

Yu Tzu Quotes

Confucian philosopher

The superior person deals with the root. Once the root is established, the Way unfolds. 1:2

Zohar Quotes

Kabbalah text

If you wish to strengthen a lie, mix a little truth in with it.

Anonymous / Unknown Source

Money talks—mostly lies.

The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.

We too often love things and use people, when we should be using things and loving people.

A nation reveals itself not only by the people it produces, but also by the people it honors and remembers.

For one rich person that is content, there are a hundred who are not.

You gain power over another person by winning his heart or by breaking his spirit.

The gods delight to see a man struggling to succeed.

He benefits himself, that does good to others.

He will never get to Heaven, that desires to go there alone.

Friendships multiply joys and divide griefs.

A friend that you buy with presents will be bought from you.

Man would've perished long ago, had it not been for public spirited people.

He teaches ill, that teaches all.

He that will not be saved, needs no sermon.

Everyone thinks himself able to advise another.

He has no small portion of virtue, that loves it in another.

He is a very ill man, who doesn't retain a secret reverence for a good man.

A virtuous person loves virtue even in an enemy.

Heaven is a cheap purchase, whatever it cost.

Hell is full of good meanings and wishes; but Heaven is full of good works.

I'll be your friend, but not your vice's friend.

If we are bound to forgive an enemy, we are not bound to trust him.

Good deeds remain; all other things perish.

He that resists his own evil inclinations, obeys God.

Do all you can to be good, and you’ll be so.

A person may be happy here and hereafter without much fame or wealth.

A person may have a just esteem of himself without being proud.

It's not humility, but sordidness, to be regardless of true honor.

Desire of glory is the last garment that even wise men put off.

It's a fair degree of plenty to have what's necessary.

People are less eager for what they may have than what they can't get.

It is a sin not to be angry with sin.

A gift with a kind countenance is a double present.

A pot that belongs to many is ill stirred and worse boiled.

A stumble may prevent a fall.

Adversity oftentimes leads to prosperity.

There's no defense against the wildfire of the mob.

Anger is short-lived in a good personn.

Argument seldom convinces anyone contrary to his inclinations.

He that would right understand a person must read his whole story.

People's actions aren't to be judged at first sight.

Our pity is often misapplied; for none can tell what another feels.

At the end of the work, you may judge of the workman.

Even doubtful accusations leave a stain behind them.

Bad excuses are worse than none.

Inconsiderable excuses are a sort of self-accusation.

Correction should not respect so much what is past, as what is to come.

Best dealing with an enemy when you take him at his weakest.

Bitter pills may have wholesome effects.

He that stays in the valley shall never get over the hill.

He that will conquer must fight.

He that will not sail till all dangers are over must never put to sea.

Dangers are overcome with dangers.

One danger is seldom overcome without another.

Do as most do, and people will speak well of you.

Do as others do, and few will mock you.

Everyone living has something to do.

Everything has its time, and that time must be watched.

Fear can keep a man out of danger, but only courage can support him in it.

Few dare write the true news of their chamber.

Flattery fits in the parlor when plain dealing is kicked out of doors.

He is no wise man that cannot play the fool upon occasion.

He does much, that does a thing well.

He invites future injuries, who rewards past ones.

He leaps into a deep river to avoid a shallow brook.

He that falls today may be up again tomorrow.

He that follows nature is never out of his way.

He that has the most time has none to lose.

He that has time, and looks for a better time, loses time.

He that listens after what people say of him shall never have peace.

Every fool can find faults that a great many wise men can't remedy.

Everyone's faults aren't written on their foreheads.

Everyone has his weak side.

He that lives on hope has but a slender diet.

He that speaks ill of his wife dishonors himself.

He's not ungrateful that cannot, but he that will not repay.

Husband, don't believe what you see, but what I tell you.

If we're enemies to ourselves, where shall we fly?

If you're a jester, keep your wit till you have use for it.

If you're not content, put your hand in your pocket and please yourself.

If you make money your God, it'll plague you like a devil.

If you don't pay a servant his wages, he'll pay himself [by stealing].

If you sell the cow, you sell her milk too.

If you leap into a well, providence isn't bound to fetch you out.

In fair weather, prepare for foul.

It's a bad bargain, where both are losers.

It is a base thing to tread upon someone who's down.

It's a most base thing to betray someone because he trusted you.

It's a great point of wisdom to find out one's own folly.

It's a miserable thing for a wise man to be under the government of a fool.

Kings have no power over souls.

No tyrant can take from you your knowledge and wisdom.

It's easier to prevent ill habits than to break them.

It is in vain to cast your net where there's no fish.

It is in vain to use words when deeds are expected.

It is the easiest thing in the world for a person to deceive himself.

Justice will not condemn even the devil himself wrongfully.

Make not even the devil blacker than he is.

Many get into a dispute well, that can't get out well.

Men generally look more upon decency than virtue.

People hate those they have hurt.

Since you wronged me, you've never had a good thought of me.

Modesty isn't bashfulness.

Nature will sometimes lie buried a great while, and yet revive upon occasion of a temptation.

Natural folly is bad enough; but learned folly is intolerable.

No day passes without something we wish not.

No one can always stand his ground.

No vice goes alone.

The maintaining of one vice costs more than ten virtues.

Oftentimes, to please fools, wise men err.

Old men think themselves cunning.

One can't live by selling goods for words.

One may be confuted, and yet not convinced.

Pain is forgotten when grain [money] comes.

Prosperous people seldom mend their faults. [Wealthy people tend to be very satisfied with themselves.]

Patience and pusillanimity are two [different] things.

Play may be good, but folly can never be of any use.

Praise not the ford till you are safe over.

Pride goes before; shame follows after.

Quarrels couldn't last long, were but prudence on one side.

Rashness isn't valor.

Religion is the best armor in the world, but the worst cloak. [True religiousness is as good as religious phoniness is bad.]

Remember, you are but a man.

Search not a wound too deep, lest you make a new one.

Seek not to reform everyone's dial by your own watch.

No dish pleases all palates alike.

Set a thief to catch a thief.

Shallow wits censure everything that's beyond their depth.

Sickness is felt, but health not at all.

Sickness will spoil the happiness of an emperor, as well as mine.

The two principal things are wisdom and health.

Singularity always seems to have a spice of arrogancy in it.

So now you act like yourself, and nobody will trust you.

Solitude dulls the thought, too much company dissipates it.

Some are atheists only in fair weather.

Some injure all they fear, and hate all they injure.

Some people's "no" is better received than others' "yes."

Sometimes it's better to give your apple than eat it yourself.

That sick person is not to be pitied, who has his cure in his sleeve.

An envious person hurts others some, but hurts himself very much.

The first faults are theirs that commit them; the second theirs that permit them.

The greatest barkers aren't the greatest biters.

The guilty man fears the law; the innocent man fears fortune.

The nature of things will not be altered by our fancies of them.

The only way to know and to serve God, is to be like him.

The thief is sorry he is to be hanged, but not that he is a thief.

The true Gentleman is God’s servant, the world’s master, and his own man.

The unfortunate are counted fools.

The way to be safe, is never to be secure.

There are more lords in the word than fine gentlemen.

They love dancing well, that dance barefoot upon thorns.

They must hunger in winter, that will not work in summer.

They seldom live well, who think they shall live long.

They, who cannot do as they would, must do as they can.

This, or any moment, may be your last.

Till death, all is life.

It's harder to unlearn than learn.

‘Tis in vain to speak reason where it won't be heard. [Anonymous]

‘Tis not Liberty to live licentiously. (5098)

‘Tis not Prating but Working, that brings in the Harvest. (5100)

Too much Familiarity breeds Contempt. (5263)

Truth may sometimes come out of the Devil’s Mouth. (5308)

Truth needs not many Words; but a false Tale, a large Preamble. (5309)

[M]y great uncle was a quiet guy. He wasn't around much. He lived in a small town. But when he died a LOT of people came to the funeral. Way more than expected.

Turns out he'd spent a lot of his time volunteering, visiting with old folks, talking with people in hospice, the food pantry, etc. etc. He never told anyone. When he died all the people from these different volunteer organizations showed up along with the people he'd helped. Line was around the block to the funeral.

A friend of mine was having a hard week. We had two tests that week, and between school and rent, he was really stressed. He really looks up to another friend of ours, who graduated last year. So I called the mutual friend and told him to call my first friend and cheer him up. He was so happy I heard about it three times that week, but he never found out that I arranged it. I hope it stays that way, so that he thinks he got the call out of the blue. ...It made me really happy knowing I helped him through a tough week.

[One] time I received a gift set of processed ham and Spam for Chuseok (major Korean holiday) when living in Korea. I didn't want it, so I decided to give it to the parking garage security guard in my apartment building. This guard was always so gruff and stony with me ... until I gave him the gift set. I told him I was re-gifting, but nevertheless he was moved to tears and told me nobody had ever done anything so nice for him. Slight exaggeration on his part, I'm sure, but from there on out he gave me a hats-off salute every time I passed by and he watched my bike for me when I was out of country.

My friend’s father volunteers at the local soup kitchen three times a week. What's amazing about this is that his family has been struggling with money and has eaten at shelters several times themselves in the past. When I asked why he does it, he said, "All people deserve something to eat, and I know there are others who have far less than us right now."

I gave my umbrella to a japanese tourist during a downpour. I was getting into my car and he had at least a mile to walk (based on where we ran into one another). He said "thank you for your kindness" and bowed like 10 times.

I was day tripping to Vancouver from Seattle and stopped in for lunch at a little cafe. From my window I saw a young teenage girl out in the cold, squatted down in a closed up businesses doorway, holding a small bundle in her arms. She was panhandling, people were mostly walking by ignoring her. She looked just broken.

I finished up my meal and went outside, went through my wallet and thought I'd give her $5 for some food. I got up to her and she was sobbing, she looked like she was 14-15. And that bundle in her arms was a baby wrapped up. I felt like I just got punched in the chest. She looked up putting on a game face and asked for any change, I asked her if she's like some lunch. Right next door was a small quick-Trip type grocery store, I got a can of formula for the baby (very young, maybe 2-3 months old.), and took her back to the cafe though I'd just eaten. She was very thankful, got a burger and just inhaled it. Got her some pie and ice cream. She opened up and we talked. She was 15, got pregnant, parents were angry and she was fighting with them. She ran away. She's been gone almost 1 full year.

I asked her if she's like to go home and she got silent. I coaxed her, she said her parents wouldn't want her back. I coaxed further, she admitted she stole 5k in cash from her Dad. Turns out 5k doesn't last long at all and the streets are tough on a 15 year old. Very tough. She did want to go back, but she was afraid no one wanted her back after what she did.

We talked more, I wanted her to use my phone to call home but she wouldn't. I told her I'd call and see if her folks wanted to talk to her, she hesitated and gave bad excuses but eventually agreed. She dialed the number and I took the phone, her Mom picked up and I said hello. Awkwardly introduced myself and said her daughter would like to speak to her, silence, and I heard crying. Gave the phone to the girl and she was just quiet listening to her Mom cry, and then said hello. And she cried. They talked, she gave the phone back to me, I talked to her Mom some more.

I drove her down to the bus station and bought her a bus ticket home. Gave her $100 cash for incidentals, and some formula, diapers, wipes, snacks for the road.

Got to the bus, and she just cried saying thank you over and over. I gave her a kiss on the forehead and a hug, kissed her baby, and she got on the bus.

I get a chistmas card every year from her. She's 21 now and in college. Her name is Makayla and her baby was Joe. ...

I just feel good knowing I did something good in this world.

All I can remember about my dad from my childhood is him screaming at me for various reasons. He would beat my sister and I from time to time. We never hugged unless he forced me to give him one. He has called me things like stupid and worthless. But he left for Afghanistan over a year ago and comes back tomorrow. Ever since he left he has texted and emailed me, "I love you" at least once a week. He seems like he truly misses us. I don't know what to expect tomorrow.

One of my classmates passed away from leukemia. She loved to learn, but couldn't continue in school for the last six months due to her illness. I found out this afternoon at her memorial service that our English teacher had gone to her house to read to her every single day until she died.

He talks at them, but not into them--he makes them think, not feel, which is most tiresome to the majority of persons, and few speakers succeed who attempt to merely make people think--they want to be made to feel. People will pay liberally to be made to feel or laugh, while they will begrudge a dime for instruction or talk that will make them think.

Every deed that we do, good or bad, is prompted by Desire. We are charitable because we Desire to relieve our inner distress at the sight of suffering; or from the Desire of sympathy; or from the Desire to be respected in this world, or to secure a comfortable place in the next. One man is kind because he Desires to be kind--because it gives him satisfaction to be kind; while another man is cruel from precisely the same kind of motive.

One man does his duty because he Desires to do it--he obtains a higher satisfaction from duty well done than he would from the neglecting of it in accordance with some weaker desires. The religious man is religious because his religious desires are stronger than his irreligious ones--because he finds a higher satisfaction in religion than in the pursuits of the worldly-minded. The moral man is moral because his moral desires are stronger than his immoral ones--he obtains a greater satisfaction in being moral than in being the contrary.

Everything we do is prompted by Desire in some shape or form--high or low. Man cannot be Desireless and act in any way. Desire is the motivating power behind all actions--it is a natural law of life. Everything from the atom to the monad; from the monad to the insect; from the insect to man; from man to Nature, acts and does things by reason of the power and force of Desire, the Animating Motive.

When I was younger I had abusive parents, like really abusive parents, one night in the middle of a snowstorm they threw me outside in the snow with no shoes or socks and in a tshirt. It was freezing cold. I was wandering around the neighborhood behind the houses because I was too embarassed.

Suddenly, a neighbor of mine, (17ish) was sitting on his window smoking and looking at the snow. He saw me, asked what the hell I was doing, I just gave him this look and he leaned out his window, grabbed me by the arms and hauled me up into his window. He gave me some blankets and let me sit there in the warmth for awhile and we just small talked and he put on a movie. A little while later my mother came by, saw him and asked if he had seen me. He instantly, without hesitating told her no, and watched until she left before helping me back home.

At the time, it was the kindest thing anyone had ever done for me, the only person who had ever protected me from my abusive parents. Since then I've always been doing my best to help my friends and acquaintances from their abusive families or relationships.

It can feel so alone being in an abusive situation, and the feeling of having someone protect you never goes away. Pay that shit forward.

Today, I received a call from my good friend's mom thanking me for taking the time to talk to her son, who had decided to see a counselor this morning instead of killing himself--which he apparently admitted openly. Last night, I talked to my friend for an hour outside of his parent's house, and had no idea I had just saved his life.

Today, I helped make food for the homeless. The man I was giving the sandwich to said he didn’t want it. I asked why and he pointed to his friend behind him and said, “I want the birthday boy here to have two sandwiches on his special day. It’s the only gift I have to give.” His friend was elated. People who have nothing and still give MakeMeThink.

Turns out that Fast Eddy has a masters degree in economics. He lost his wife in a car accident 3 years earlier and turned to drugs to kill the pain. What started out as weed and hard liquor turned into coke, meth, and speed. He was living in a homeless shelter and had nothing but the clothes on his back.

... We sat for a while, after we finished eating before we walked back to South Station, I asked him what he would do now, if he had the chance to turn things around. Eddy looked right at me and said that he couldn't turn things around, he couldn't get over his losses. I asked about his family. His mom lives in South Carolina from what he confessed, and his Dad passed away 6 months before his Wife. I asked him when the last time he talked to his mom was, he told me 3 and a half years ago.

I thought to myself about the amount of money that I had in my bank account. $650 was approximately what I had in my checking, savings was pretty low too. I asked him if he had any interest in going home, to see his mom and get out of the harsh New England winter. He told me time and time again that he couldn't go back to living with his mom, he was 34 years old and his pride couldn't take the hit...

I pointed out to him that he was strung out on meth, and I want to put him on a bus back home so he can get better. He teared up as soon as I said it and kept saying, "thank you" as he hugged me. ... Before I put him on the Bus I cashed out all but $40 of my checking account and went to a few stores to get him some respectable clothing. He ended up looking a lot more human once he shaved, washed up, and got into some clean clothing.

I pulled out my cell phone and told him to call his mom, and to tell her that he's coming home. The phone call lasted a little over 20 minutes, which made me end up missing my train, I didn't really care at this point. I knew that even if this man went back to drugs... that for this brief moment, he was happy.

I put him on that bus Feb 23rd 2005, I got a letter with a picture 6 months ago [in 2012]. It was (Fast) Eddy, his mom, his fiance' and their newborn child in the picture. In with the letter was a note it read: "Once, you told me that if I ever needed help you were just a call or a letter away. Now I'm writing you to tell you that it was your help that has saved me from myself. God bless you..."

It went on into more personal details about his old meth habits, his new girlfriend, his relationship with his mom, his new job, and his new life. ...

I was in a hurry and stopped at a gas station to fill up. While I was outside my car a man came up to me and asked if I could spare a buck or two for gas. He, his wife, and his daughter were traveling but were broke and barely made it to the station. They had a broken down old volvo and it was clear that they were vagabonds of some sort who lived in their car. The kid was at most two years old. I was pretty low on cash myself but I thought hey what the hell, I could use some affirmation that people can be kind if I were in their situation. So I swiped my card at their pump and said, "Fill it up. Good luck to you and your family, I hope this can get you where you're going" and walked away. He started crying as I left and I would have lost it too if I wasn't too proud to do so in public. To see a grown man cry like that - both for having received an unexpected gift and for having to be put in the position of begging to keep his family safe, was one of the most profound experiences of my life.

Today, I realized how much my mom has really been through. Her mom and dad divorced when she was young. Her mom was an alcoholic. When she went to live with her dad, he had no idea how to care for a teenage daughter so she learned lots from her neighbors. Then her dad died and she went to live with her mom and her new boyfriend. They were quite abusive, and I don't know how she manages to be the happy mom she is to me today. Her strength MakesMeThink.

I went to college in a pretty horrible neighborhood. We would have parties and have all sorts of people showing up, on a few occasions we had to hire bouncers to keep the locals out. One night at 5 AM after we had a party there was a knock on the door my roommate answered and a homeless gentleman basically pushed his way into the house thinking there was still a party going on. The party had dispersed a few hours earlier, what this guy wanted was some food. My roommate woke me up because he wasn't trying to deal with this guy by himself. I got out of bed and began cooking everything we had, which basically ammounted to some bacon, 3 eggs (no cheese, this homeless gentleman hated cheese) and a bowl of pasta. While I was cooking my roommate went to bed and the guy put espn on the TV and just acted like a normal person (even though it was 5 AM on a weekend). Sometimes you realize that people just want to be treated like people and not shooed away, granted if I were sober and my roommate woke me up at 5 AM to cook for a homeless man the story may be a little different.

Despite the fact that I'm in a failing marriage, I'm steadily working towards all the goals I've set for myself, and live a good life. My friends, family, and coworkers love me. I have a great job, a great church, and am engaged in really fun activities and hobbies. I really want to share this life with my spouse, but if he doesn't love me anymore, I am okay with facing this reality. Looking at my life, and the bright future ahead, MakesMeThink.

Today, I watched as a homeless man crossed the street with a shopping cart full of his belongings near my shop in Portland. The wheel of the cart got stuck in a small pothole and tipped the cart over, and his possessions went everywhere. A man dressed in a suit and tie stopped, got down on his hands and knees, and frantically helped the man gather his things.

My sister sent me a text that said "I love you so much." Worried something was wrong, I called her and asked what was up. Laughing, she replied, "Nothing's up, Anna. I was just thinking today about how much you mean to me and what an amazing role model you've been in my life. I realized I haven't told you I loved you in over a month, and that's just not right when I love you this much."

The end of one of the most difficult months of my life is coming to a close. Over the last four weeks, I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me, I was laid off from my job, and my mother was diagnosed with cancer and began chemo. Despite all of this, my two best friends have been there for me every step of the way. They’ve taken the trouble to meet me for lunch and dinner, swing by my house randomly to check on me, post little jokes on my Facebook wall, and leave funny messages on my voicemail. Not a single day has passed this month that they haven’t reached out to me to make sure I’m okay. Having true friends who care and go out of their way to keep you smiling MakesMeThink.

I was babysitting my friend’s 10 year old daughter at her house. I noticed a picture over the fireplace of a happily smiling, yet completely bald little girl. Not recognizing the girl in the photo, I asked who it was. My friend’s daughter replied, “That’s me. I had cancer when I was 4.” Her smile in the picture despite her illness, and seeing her today fully recovered Makes Me Think.

This morning I went to drop of my large items to the recycling center. There was an Asian lady in the line who looked about 65-70 years old. She had 6 big black bags of recycling with her. I asked her if she wanted my items, because she was commingling and she could get money for it. She accepted them and thanked me with the most wonderful, loving hug I have ever had.

After leaving the recycling center, I went to the market. I had just finished writing my book, and am hoping to get it published someday. I wanted to pick up some steaks to celebrate. It was kind of a special occasion for me, since I have been unemployed for four months and money is tight.

At the market, I had the steaks in my hand, but then thought about the lady at the recycling center. I put them back and decided to buy hamburgers instead. Then, I went back to the recycling center.

Folding up the twenty dollar bill that I would have spent on steaks, I walked up to the Asian lady. Taking her hand, I put the money in it, gave her a hug, and walked away. All of a sudden, before I could get too far, I felt someone grab me around the waist from behind. (Note: I am 6' tall and she is maybe 5' tall.) I turned around and hugged her back. Tears filled both of our eyes. She told me she loved me and thanked me again. I kissed her cheek and told her to have a wonderful day.

Then I got in my truck and drove away.

A few of us were walking our dogs around the neighborhood yesterday.

"Now, Danny," my sister-in-law said to her son. "When we walk by Miss Margie's house remember to stop and call out and wave to her."

A few houses later Danny called out, "Miss Margie! Miss Margie, are you there?" And Miss Margie's waving hand appeared at the window. Then she looked out, smiled, and leaned back in again.

Danny told me that Miss Margie likes it when he remembers to look for her. She doesn't really like company in her house, but still likes people to think of her.

Kindness, it's as easy as that!

I am a crime scene officer. I responded to a woman who was badly beaten by her husband. Taking pictures of her battered body we talked about her next steps and how there are people more than willing to help her. She said I was her angel.

Just earlier today I watched as a chaplain comforted a grieving husband whose wife committed suicide, thinking I could never do that, but in a way I did without even initially realizing it.

I got a phone call from my daughter's kindergarten teacher. She asked me why I wasn’t providing lunch for my daughter over the past few days. Confused, I hung up the phone and asked my daughter what she was doing with her lunches. She said, "Katie’s mom is in the hospital and hasn’t been able to make any meals for the last week, so I gave a few of my lunches to her.”

So many people today know how it feels to be on limited funds. I do my best to help others. Whether paying bills or at the grocery store, I am always looking out for those who need help. And today I was blessed to be able to help a homeless man.

He was sitting outside the grocery store, shivering. You would think that in Arizona people wouldn't get that cold but this man was really shivering.

My hubby and I were putting our groceries in the van and I saw a folded blanket just laying in the middle of the seat. I grabbed it, our 8-piece chicken dinner and a bottle of juice and gave them all to him.

He was so thankful that he stood up and hugged me. He said, "God bless you, sister!" Then he hugged my hubby and said, "God heard my prayers!"

I was so touched that a tear ran down my cheek. As my hubby and I returned to the van he smiled and said, "God heard his prayers and sent you, an angel, to help."

I have now lived 227 days beyond the 9 month life expectancy they gave me. Every single one of these days has been a true blessing.

I am a single mother with two wonderful kids under the age of 4. I don't make much money and I get hardly any money from my ex-husband. My 16-year-old neighbor down the street visits me almost every day to entertain my kids, and give me a short break. Sometimes she even buys them small toys and takes them for a walk around the block. This afternoon I tried to pay her as a way of thanking her, and she refused.

When I was about twelve, I was headed to a restaurant for dinner with my family. It was winter, and on that particular night, the wind was really blowing.

As my mom and I headed towards the restaurant from our car, a girl about my age and her mother came up to us. They asked if we had any spare change. My mom immediately asked where they kept their things. They pointed to an old car in a parking lot across the street. The girl said there were six of them living in that car, which was the same size as my own family.

My mom said she had something to do, and after handing the people a few dollars, we said good-bye. Then, my mother sent me inside the restaurant with my dad and my three siblings. But she didn't come.

Later, I found out that she had gone home and practically emptied our cupboards into a few bags. Then, she brought that food over to the car and handed the bags to the family. I wasn't there when that part happened, but I can only imagine the joy it brought to their faces.

A few days, later, when I actually found out about what she had done, I asked her why she helped those people. She told me that we were lucky and that her family wasn't as lucky. I remember the face of that girl who had asked us for change-- how she was the same age as me, yet we looked so different.

Here I stood, dressed in almost new clothes, headed to dine in a restaurant and then back home to the bedroom I shared with my younger sister. I remember thinking that the other girl didn't have any food to eat, and she was headed back to a cold car shared with 5 other people.

After painting this picture in my mind, I understood why my mom had done what she did. I will never forget what she did that night, and how she taught me one of the best lessons I ever learned.

Thank you mom, I love you.

I have never lived in the same province as my only niece, but she and I have a special bond. Since she was two years old I have written her a letter every week!

We refer to them as my Thursday letters because my day off used to be Thursday and the first thing I would do would be to write to Brooke. She is ten now and quite grown up, but I continue to cherish the times when I write to her. I have only missed six Thursdays in eight years; because of a mail strike and a hospital stay.

When Brooke was four she was talking with my mom. "Auntie Steph writes me a letter every week," she said.

"That's a lot of letters," my mom replied. "What does she write about?"

"Well ..." Brooke thought about it. "She tells me that she loves me! Sometimes she says it long and sometimes she says it short!"

She was absolutely right! She saw the love right through the envelope, past the stickers and addressed to her heart!

Today, I realized that so much has changed since all of his alcoholic rages, verbal abuse, and the nights he made me feel like I didn't deserve to be breathing. It feels like so much time has passed since the first time I asked him why he did it, and told him I needed him to change and be my dad again. And somehow he did change. My father has transformed himself into the most respectable and caring man I know, and became my dad again. And now I can't begin to think of my life without him in it.

I'd had a couple of yard sales, but I also had lots of good stuff I no longer needed. I didn't want to bother with another yard sale and I couldn't bring myself to throw the items away.

So, I decided to have a "Kindness Sale" where everything was free! If a person took something they were encouraged to perform an act of kindness to a stranger at some time in the future.

Everything was given away!

People shared so many heart warming stories and often individuals would say, "This is just what I needed!" When I told people about the idea behind the Kindness Sale some of them could hardly believe it.

I now have my two-car garage back and I have loads of room.

Today, I waited on an elderly couple where I work. She kept forgetting things. Turns out she has Alzeihmer's disease. Her husband was so calm and understanding. He never got annoyed having to tell her everything she had forgotten. I witnessed true love at its best.

It’s been over 20 years since I recovered from acute depression. And it’s my little brother that I have to thank for keeping me alive and pushing forward toward recovery. Every single time I had a breakdown, he was there to talk to – a phone call away or there in person if I needed it. And every time I told him, “I hate myself!” he said, “I love you.”

It’s been ten years since she passed away. But she was my best friend, and she saved my life when I was at a low point in my twenties. Although she is no longer here, I am, and I wouldn’t be here without her. She still lives though the life she saved in me.

I spent the majority of high school with no friends, or friends out of pity. But now I'm in college and I have a best friend who truly cares. And this summer after I temporarily moved away to a new city, she called me every single day for several weeks straight so I wouldn't get home sick.

Today, I ran into my ex-husband's new girlfriend at Whole Foods. She apologized to me for showing up at a party that I also attended and for putting me in a very awkward position. My ex did not tell her that I would be there. I stood speechless for a second in deli area, and she realized how sad I still am over the divorce and gave me an unexpected hug. She was very compassionate. And as awkward as this encounter initially felt, in some backwards way, she made me feel better too.

Today, my little sister saved my life, and she has no idea. All she did was send me one text: "It was so great to see you yesterday. I love talking with you. And I want to start spending more time together." 22 words was all it took to stop the suicidal thoughts that had been running through my head all day. This evening I even went to my first therapy session to cope with my issues. I wish more people knew how powerful their words are.

Today, I celebrated my one year anniversary of working with Autistic children at the local hospital. Three times a week I work with a boy who has never spoken to me. Today he looked me straight in the eye and said, "Thank you, Hailey. You make my life better."

I work as a meat clerk at a major natural foods chain.

Every week there's an old man that comes into my store - his name is Sid.

Sid is a picky old man that forgets things--he often calls me "George" (my name is Robert). He gives the clerks a hard time, asking for special things, and being an overall curmudgeon. No one wants to help him - but I was nice to him one day and ever since that day, he comes in asking if "George" is around. One day while I was helping him he told me that he had lost his wife several years back and that he forgets things and that it's generally lousy being old. No secret there, but he's lonely and I felt bad for him.

I often give him special service that takes a great deal of time--it can be a pain in the ass at times, and my co-workers sometimes give me guff for it.

This past week I was helping Sid when he asked me to take his hand. He firmly grabbed it, looked me dead in the eye and said: "Thank you for being my friend."

I started to well up and thanked him for being my friend, telling him that he was a nice man.

It's not to much that I'm doing something incredibly nice for Sid, or even that it's the nicest thing I've ever done--it's simple stuff. It sounds cheesy, but the impact of simple actions can make a huge difference to some people. I honestly had no idea that what I was doing was so important to him.

For a moment I was frustrated to go to work on a Saturday morning. Then I remembered waking up in a safe warm bed when others don't. I contemplated driving in my nice car, while others walk. I sipped on my warm coffee and ate a slice of toast while I thought about how others went to bed hungry last night and woke up this morning, still hungry. Instead of fretting about working today, I choose to smile. It's my goal to find someone who woke up cold and hungry this morning, and give them what I make today, hoping it will make much more than a day’s difference to them.

Today, for the first time in five years, I saw the homeless man I used to give a couple dollars to on my walk home from work almost every day. He was my cab driver this afternoon, and he recognized me as soon as I got into the cab. He told me he saved the money I gave him and used it to get back on his feet. He thanked me over and over again, and gave me a free ride.

It's been five years since I adopted a puppy from a high kill shelter that had no time left. Since then I have developed a moderate case of a neurological disease that causes seizures. Believe it or not, dog is able to detect my seizures before I know. She starts barking hysterically, and keys me into my episode before it starts. So today she is my service dog. The life I saved saving me every day MakesMeThink.

For nearly half a year my internet has been painfully slow. Slow to the point I couldn't watch 10 seconds videos without it having to buffer every couple of seconds, so slow that 10 megabytes would take me 20 minutes to download.

I've called Verizon in the past and complained to which they said everything was fine and the connection speed was good.

They sent a tech to my house to check on everything and he said everything was fine.

Recently I began looking into getting cable internet so when I called Verizon to cancel my account they said they would increase the speed of my internet at no extra cost.

A few days go by and just this morning I was informed by Verizon that they increased my internet speed. I checked and yes it is in fact faster. Now I can watch 1080p videos on YouTube just fine, my downloads are faster and performance has improved.

So on the day I was prepared to cancel my service they decide that suddenly they can flip a switch and now my internet is actually good. I still feel like I was getting the short end of the stick so I'm gonna cancel it anyway.

Fine dining cook here. 30% of your meal is butter. That's why it's so good.

The case [that I was involved in on the Judge Judy show] was real (I mean, I had to file at my local courthouse and send the paperwork to the producers; they promptly sent both myself and the defendant a form to sign that indicated we were dropping the case and opting for arbitration) but oh dear lord, was it ever exaggerated.

So: I signed up on the Judge Judy website in an attempt to scare my sister straight and make her pay me back some trivial amount that I had loaned her. However, after we were contacted by the producer and found out the both the trip to LA and amount owed would be paid for by the production company, we opted to go for it. We were coached to roll our eyes, gasp and gawk, and speak out if the other party said something with which we disagreed. The producer also wanted to add some more "drama" to the case (it was, admittedly, pretty boring), so we made up an entire scenario about a shouting match and stolen jewelry (I nixed the idea of my sister calling CPS on me). The producer even had me create and print out fake documents to submit to Judge Judy as evidence.

My sister and I had to practice our stories and make sure all the "facts" matched up, as we each had to sign a summary that the judge read before hearing our case. The day we went in for filming, we met with another producer who pretended to be Judge Judy and grilled us for about thirty minutes. I can't tell you how many times they told me to get "fired up".

The editing was surprisingly minimal; Judge Judy knows her shit. I believe they cut out a part where she asked my sister to repeat something, but that's about it. We were in and out of the courtroom in less than ten minutes.

We sadly were unable to meet Judge Judy, but I did win an extra $800 (on top of what was legitimately owed me) and a free trip to Los Angeles. My mom, however, was not too pleased.

And yes, I still keep in touch with my sister. We were both in on it, and didn't have any hard feelings prior to or following the show.

Before my wife and I moved in together she needed to "settle" up with her previous apartment which required her taking her old roommate to court. They both agreed to go on Judy. Both were very heavily coached and encouraged to scream at each other. Apparently the show never made it to air but they still paid for the flight out and the money owed by her roommate.

I was on Judge Judy and they didn't tell me to do shit. We went to the green room, they threw some powder on me and sent me out. I was hung over as fuck. She grilled my buddy and his sister who were suing me and then said I was guilty. Walked out with a $500 check and me and my buddy got a couple kegs. JJ paid for the damages I was getting sued for.

They [the TV show My Strange Eddiction] portrayed me as a jobless, education-less shut-in who uses a mask to hide behind the fact that I cannot accept the death of my father as a reality. I was attending school during the time of filming, and while I am a bit of an introvert at times, I am in no way close to what they had shown. My father passing away does still put a heavy weight on my heart, but it does not inhibit my life in any way. I have never spent "countless hours" holed up in my room building costumes, nor do I "wear the costume to family events and cannot see myself in public without it." That was honestly the most shocking part to me, how they made it seem that I never took the costume off. Before the airing of the show, I had worn the costume twice, and both times were for fitting purposes. Every since, and up until this day, I reserve one weekend a year to wearing a fursuit; during an annual convention. I have a completely normal life outside of this; I have a job, a loving family, a boyfriend, a group of great friends and I am a musician and firearm freak more than I am a furry. It is merely a small hobby of mine, but they took what information I gave and ran with it.

I work at a Design and Branding firm, and we have had Marketing companies come in and tell us that they have 1000+ people across the world with 20+ twitter accounts each with very different personalities and tone. They charge one dollar per tweet to promote your product, and guarantee the results will look "organic."

The US military has a tradition where you spend your entire budget by Oct (the new fiscal year) or you risk losing that portion of your budget. I've been in units that would go out and purchase $200,000 worth of useless shit just to avoid having a budget surplus. Multiply by the number of units in the military (a shit ton) and you have all your fraud, waste and abuse.

Government bodies work ... are exceedingly good at and anxious to spend other government bodies' money. What I mean by this is that a city manager will be as frugal as possible and really vet every project that would use city funds. But if the state is picking up the bill, hot fucking damn, let's add spinners to the municipal fleet. Same with states and federal funds. If it would come out of the state budget, ehhh, we should be careful. If it's federal funds, let's do this thing. A great example of this was with This American Life's show several months back on SSI. When they moved welfare to a state funded program under the Clinton administration, states (Missouri specifically was the one profiled) spent a bunch of their own money hiring companies to get people that would be on their welfare rolls to be accepted on the federally funded SSI. End result to the taxpayer was that you still had more or less the same cost for the recipient (welfare/SSI money) plus a chunk spent by the state on a company that did nothing but facilitate a shell game. But, those state politicians are elected based on what they can say they did with the state budget, and they can say that they saved you money, even though that's not true in the fine print. They don't give a fuck about those federal dollars, even though it costs taxpayers more in the long run.

OP, I admit that this show [According to Jim] isn't good... the writing isn't sharp, the story is banal, it's full of cliches and the acting is not that good. However, I have to say that I loved this show. Not because it was good or exciting, but because it was warm, safe, comfortable. I know it sounds weird, but the family had great chemistry together, and while the acting wasn't great, it was, as someone already said, charismatic. The house was cozy and inviting. the stories were silly, but amusing. This show had a certain ressemblance with some family shows that I grew up with, such as Family Ties. Simple entertaining stuff that you like to watch when you're too stressed out or nervous. This show was safe in that sense, it used to give me a sense of security, due to its familiar vibe.

My husband and I have mutually agreed that we immediately think a person is a tool if they mention enjoying NCIS. His childhood best friend is a big fan, and he still agrees that it's an accurate assessment.

I spent 4 years in the Navy, and never saw or heard anything as disgusting as Mencia. He has taken a subject which should be beautiful, and turned it into what you might expect to buy in a slum house of prostitution. Carlos is a deranged person who has no sense of comedy.

I'm still not overly familiar with him [Dane Cook]. A friend of mine LOVES him, thinks he is the funniest thing around. I have chuckled at the little bits I have seen, but nothing has made me search him out. Hell, my friend even gave my two of his albums to check out, and I ended up deleting them before I even listened.

I can't believe how bored we were after watching this unbelievable guy['s stand up comedy video]. I think we only laughed once. I thought is was because I wasn't drunk the first time I watched it, or maybe because I was alone, but after my wife sat down to watch it with me, and neither one of us laughed.

I've showed all of my friends Kevin Hart and the only ones that never fell out of their chairs laughing were the racist ones. The ones that grew up hating black people. I grew up in a country town like that. This isn't even an exaggeration either. I've probably shown over 15 different people this one comedy act, Laugh At My Pain, and every person save one or two racist fucks were dying by the end of this act.

I've never written a review on Netflix before but I felt obliged to say something after watching this. This guy [Aziz Ansari] is moderately funny. I was enjoying the show for a few minutes, but then I noticed that one of the buttons on Mr. Ansari's right sleeve was missing. Three buttons on the right sleeve, four on the right. To make matters worse, there's a bit a black thread where the button was. I tried to keep watching but the missing button is just so egregious that it's impossible to enjoy the performance so I had to stop. Also, his cadences are so similar to Mitch Hedberg's as to make listening kind of sad.

Roberto Acuna Quotes

According to Mom, I was born on a cotton sack out in the fields, ‘cause she had no money to go to the hospital. When I was a child, we used to migrate from California to Arizona and back and forth. The things I saw shaped my life. I remember when we used to go out and pick carrots and onions, the whole family. We tried to scratch a livin’ out of the ground. I saw my parents cry out in despair, even though we had the whole family working. At the time, they were paying sixty-two and a half cents an hour. The average income must have been fifteen hundred dollars, maybe two thousand.

This was supplemented by child labor. During those years, the growers used to have a Pick-Your-Harvest Week. They would get all the migrant kids out of school and have ‘em out there pickin’ the crops at peak harvest time. A child was off that week and when he went back to school, he got a little gold star. They would make it seem like something civic to do.

We’d pick everything: lettuce, carrots, onions, cucumbers, cauliflower, broccoli, tomatoes – all the salads you could make out of vegetables, we picked ‘em. Citrus fruits, watermelons – you name it…We’d follow the seasons. After my dad died, my mom would come home and she’d go into her tent and I would go into ours. We’d roughhouse and everything and then we’d go into the tent where Mom was sleeping and I’d see her crying. When I asked her why she was crying she never gave me an answer. All she said was things would get better. She retired a beaten old lady with a lot of dignity. That day she thought would be better never came for her. ...

I never did want to go to town because it was a very bad thing for me. We used to go to the small stores, even though we got clipped more. If we went to the other stores, they would laugh at us. They would always point at us with a finger. We’d go to town maybe every two weeks to get what we needed. Everybody would walk in a bunch. We were afraid. (Laughs.) We sang to keep our spirits up. We joked about our poverty. ...

I started picking crops when I was eight. I couldn’t do much, but every little bit counts. Every time I would get behind on my chores, I would get a carrot thrown at me by my parents. I would daydream: If I were a millionaire, I would buy all these ranches and give them back to the people. I would picture my mom living in one area all the time and being admired by all the people in the community. All of a sudden I’d be rudely awaken by a broken carrot in my back. That would bust your whole dream apart and you’d work for a while and come back to daydreaming. ...

We used to work early, about four o’clock in the morning. We’d pick the harvest until about six. Then we’d run home and get into our supposedly clean clothes and run all the way to school because we’d be late. By the time we got to school, we’d be all tuckered out. Around maybe eleven o’clock, we’d be dozing off. Our teachers would send notes to the house telling Mom that we were inattentive. ... School would end maybe four o’clock. We’d rush home again, change clothes, go back to work until seven, seven thirty at night. ... On Saturday and Sunday, we’d be there from four thirty in the morning until about seven thirty in the evening. ... I’d go barefoot to school. The bad thing was they used to laugh at us, the Anglo kids. They would laugh because we’d bring tortillas and frijoles to lunch. They would have their nice little compact lunch boxes with cold milk in their thermos and they’d laugh at us because all we had was dried tortillas. Not only would they laugh at us, but the kids would pick fights. My older brother used to do most of the fighting for us and he’d come home with black eyes all the time. ...

The growers don’t recognize us as persons. That’s the worst thing, the way they treat you. ... They haven’t any regard as to what safety precautions are needed. The pesticides affect the farm worker through the lungs. He breathes it in. He gets no compensation. They don’t investigate the cause.

If people could see--in the winter, ice on the field. We’d be on our knees all day long. We’d build fires and warm up real fast and go back onto the ice. We’d be picking watermelons in 105 degrees all day long. When people have melons or cucumber or carrots or lettuce, they don’t know how they got on their table and the consequences to the people who picked it. If I had enough money, I would take busloads of people out to the fields and into the labor camps. Then they’d know how that fine salad got on their table.